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Tonya Craft, a teacher from Kansas, was recently acquitted. She had been brought up on child abuse charges a couple of years ago and now she finds herself in the driver's seat. Naturally, she's going to sue everybody involved including the sheriff and the parents of the kids who accused her. And so it goes, back and forth.

Then there was the case of a woman accused of molesting her mentally retarded daughter. It seems a teacher's assistant was told, by a psychic, that someone with the initials M. M. or just plain M. or something like that, was having sex with a child at the school. The principal and the TA pored over the files until they singled out the woman in question. The child was taken into protective custody and the woman hauled off to jail.

Years ago, practically the entire staff of a day school in Southern California was locked up after kids related lurid tales of Satanic rituals conducted in a series of underground bunkers. In the end, the school building was razed and the grounds torn up in a futile search for the lustful lairs .

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This reminds me of the Salem Witch Trials. Neurotic adults spurred on a couple of fantasy prone kids and, before you know it, there were bonfires of little old ladies. I think it's telling that, in every case, the accused were said to have had unnatural sex with the devil. Of course, this opens the door to "natural" sex with the Devil but that's beside the point.

Nobody spoke out and yet and you just know that at least of few of the locals must have recognized nutty behavior when they saw it. The reason for their silence is clear enough. They were afraid of being condemned. When hysteria breaks out, even if you never fooled around - naturally or unnaturally - with the Devil, it doesn't matter. You're going to be accused for the sins that exist mostly in the heads of the accusers.

All you need do is look at the comments that followed Dr. Feuerman's column. Anyone who didn't froth at the mouth was put down as, at the very least, a sympathizer but more likely a despicable despoiler of the pure and innocent. There were 25 comments when I last looked and there are probably a few more by now. One ran for a total of 1288 words; far longer than the original column.

A simple truth - if you want the truth - is that run away emotion speaks to an unresolved conflict in the individual. The guy who wants to kill all Queers is not the guy you want standing behind you in the Men's Room. The same applies to those who would kill all pedophiles but love coaching the junior softball team.

One study, done after that Southern California day school incident I mentioned, asked people to estimate the number of child abductions that occurred in their area. The actual number was minuscule and usually involved parents going through custody battles. However, those who were most outspoken were those with the highest estimates. So where, exactly, is all that filthy carrying-on taking place? Where else but in the heads of those keen on pointing the finger.

Years ago, I did some work for a police department in a major US city. Walking past Vice, I noticed a detective watching a kiddy porn video. When I asked about it, he told me he watched for a few hours every day. It stimulated him to go out and catch the "%#@%$# Chicken Hawks." I abhor crudity to animals so maybe I should spend time watching cock, dog and bull fights? It might stimulate me...you think?

Then we had an Attorney General of the United States who (Oh so moral) insisted that nude statues in the Department of Justice be covered with draperies. Now there's a sick SOB...a clown you couldn't trust with a blow-up dolly running a branch of the federal government.

This is really not much beyond Psych 101 folks. When a finger points, don't look at where it's pointed before you first look at whose doing the pointing.

 

Stephen Benedict-Mason is a psychologist, a former university professor, syndicated newspaper columnist and radio talk-show host.

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