The blogger seemed befuddled by the fact that the people in his psychotherapy group, who all said they wanted to be coupled, didn't seem to be trying very hard to make that happen. There's a possibility he did not recognize. Maybe there were some people in that group who really were not all that eager to be coupled, but didn't want to say so. Maybe they were not ready to admit it even to themselves. Consider that they are in a matrimaniacal society in which it is just assumed that everyone wants to be coupled. They are in a group led by a man who says about himself, "I was once between wives for about six minutes. I didn't like it at all." Now add to all that a scene in which the first few hands are going up (the fellow group members indicating that they want to be coupled), and what are you going to do? You raise your hand, too.