Living Single

The Alternatives to Marriage website has this to say about being poly:

I'm offended by the obvious bias on a website that, otherwise, might appear to be pro-single.

Warning: This is not an alternative to coupling website, it is just another website promoting homosexuality!

It seems to me that psychology frequently seems to support the status quo, at least with regard to what is considered sane or normal. I can't help but remember that at one time psychology considered strong women and gay people dysfunctional. I wonder if the bias against singles in psychological studies represents a similar phenomena.

Looking at the world, it doesn’t matter what position is life you’re in, married, committed, or single, it seems it’s about one-upping someone. To me, nobody can advance in life if the only reason why you would want to make any step in life is shove it in someone’s face. You’re single, you’re a bad and selfish person; if you’re a married/committed man who chooses to be a homemaker, you’re a deadbeat father; if you’re a career woman who needs a babysitter for your kids because you and your significant other is working; you’re also selfish. Then these people would take their stance in life and prove how good it is in contrast to other people and then prove how another person’s stance in life is bad, selfish, or abnormal. It seems no one can do anything without feeling guilty about it, even though their decision was not intended to be a bad thing. People can’t just choose to live the life they want to and just be done with it…

i remember when i was single (the first time) and feeling like people thought there was something wrong w/ me because i had never been married. as if it were proof that no one wanted me, that i was unloveable. now that i'm re-single (divorced), i see the push of women toward marriage as a trap. honestly, i don't see what marriage does for women. we give up our names, become house keeper and nurse-maid to a man who still does whatwever he wishes whenever he wishes. for what? to keep him from leaving when he grows tires of us, or to trap us in the marriage when we grow tired of being a servant? NOTHING could drag me to the alter again.

Excellent. Just excellent as usual, Dr. DePaulo.

OBITUARY
Arkansas, Friday, February 17, 2069 - 12:00 AM
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Arkansas State Oldest Citizen Slips Away in her Sleep

Hot Springs – Miss Dew Frederic, PhD, 116 of Hot Springs passed away peacefully in her sleep at the tiny home with her caregiver and friends, Saturday, December 2, 2069. Born in Jacksonville, Florida February 18, 1953, the only child of the late Carlton Bryan and Josephine Frederic Bryan. She attended schools in Jacksonville, Florida, and graduate from high school. A retired educator, she graduate from Henderson State University with a Master of Arts in Education, and the Loyola University of Chicago with a PhD in Philosophy. Dr. Frederick was a lifelong member of The Sierra Club. She spent most of her life outside in nature, and was a past volunteer with the Hot Springs VIPS program. She also enjoyed playing cards and sharing with her large circle of friends, sewing, art, gymnastics, especially quilting, was an avid reader, and enjoyed traveling. She gave up driving a car early in her life and walked instead. She never married, but leaves an enormous legacy of good. There are no known survivors. A public celebration of her life will be held by friends at Queen Wilhelmina State Park in the Ouachita Mountains atop 2,681-foot Rich Mountain, Arkansas's second highest mountain, home to the Arkansas Native Plant and Wildlife Center. The body has been cremated. Ashes will be scattered at a later date. Arrangements are by Kirby & Family and Cremation Services. Visit online obituary/guestbook at www.kirbyandfamily.com. (870)425-2161, call for directions and further information.

Remember, readers, Obits, after all, give credit for living, not just dying. What will they think of you?” – Write your own obituary, I did, you just read it..
Always single in rural Arkansas, drinking spring water and loving nature living in a tiny home

I just saw on one of CNN news reports about the recession that Julie Savitt, 40 something with 3 children found herself divorced and had to start a dump truck business to survive. In 2011, Julie Savitt of AMS Earth Movers, Inc. was awarded NAWBO Chicago Woman Business Owner of the Year. Also, I viewed one of the shows, the DoctorsTV.com (Sept. 2011) that Sue wanted (and needed) a facelift after her 21 year marriage ended. She told the doctors she lost weight, and the stress of the divorce itself aged her also, so she paid for and had a full facelift, plus laser surgery.

Here is another one from my files: Judgment Ridge: The True Story Behind the Dartmouth Murders - Dick Lehr (Author), Mitchell Zuckoff (2004), I read while in college, and learned the following: “When Christmas was over, the approach of 2001 marked a return to their hectic lives. But they were considering a dramatic change. Susanne and Half had begun to mull retirement and had discussed whether Susanne, at 55, seven years younger than her husband, should retire early. They were looking forward to more time for favored pursuits, like sailing in Maine and visits to their Berlin apartment. Mostly, friends said, they wanted more time together knowing that Half’s heart ailment might separate them too soon. Susanne had taken a first step toward scaling back her work by stepping down as chairwoman of the German studies department, a job that required her to attend numerous meetings every week. Kacades recalled how Susanne was once so busy and stressed out she developed stomach cramps so painful she could not straighten up. The way she pushed herself all the time was very had on a lot of us, including Half, Kacades said. She was tired and she was aware she needed a better quality of life. As for Half, there was only one dream he had yet to fulfill: becoming a pilot. Susanne and Half’s green thumbs were more prominently on display in the lavishly filled greenhouse, where they grew exotic plants, with a special fondness for orchids. Until then, the present was defined by their demanding careers. To celebrate the New Year, the Zantops hosted a party at their home that included their two closest friends. In the weeks that followed, there were papers to write, speeches to prepare, classes to each, and conference to organize. As a salve for their hectic lives, the Zantops (both ere feminists, humanists, environmentalists)were always trying to squeeze in time for exercise. In winter, cross country skis were usually resting by their front door. (Pg. 53-54)
The institution of marriage is just NOT for everyone.

ADMIT ONE
This morning, Paula Deen said on the “Today” show that she has Type 2 diabetes, an announcement that has prompted many thousands of characters’ worth of snarky Twitter remarks and blog commentary. I ALWAYS KNEW THE MARRIED QUEEN OF THE DANGEROUS cooking SOUTHERN RECIPIES WAS HIDING A SECRET. SHE IS ALSO A SMOKER, YA’LL. (SEE Dr. OzTVshow.com 2011 interview) I have never purchased any of her products and have never watched her cook. I am not that into cooking and eating!!!! And, I feel the same way about Chef Rachael Ray and her recipes and products. Very married and now Chef (vegan eating) Elisabeth Hasselbeck. These women will never make a dime off of me! Let me not forget the once married and now divorced, ex-prisoner Martha Stewart & her products, and all other married chefs pushing their recipes, books, DVDs, etc.
I do not and have NOT purchased recipe books (except for a few from the raw vegan/vegetarian world years ago and a few recent DVDs), but I have no need for all of the big ticket items for cooking and to house a 'rack of cook' books. Ugh. Americans are already too fat.
Single in Arkansas
PS: I have an old copy of Raw food made easy: for 1 or 2 people - Jennifer Cornbleet -