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All Together Now – So Many Perspectives on Singlism

Singlism: What It Is, Why It Matters, and How to Stop It

I've been writing about singlism for years here at Psych Today and in my previous books and articles. It is a topic that almost always draws an engaged readership with lots of ideas of their own. It seemed time to pull it all together into a book specifically on that topic.

At first, I thought it would be a sole-authored book. I was going to edit much of what I had already written (for blogs and op-ed pages of newspapers; in journal articles intended for a wider audience than jargon-obsessed insiders; and so forth), add some new pieces, and organize it into book that tells a bigger and more coherent story. I did all of that, but as I kept reading the thoughtful comments that are so often posted here, and thinking about the insightful work of others on topics relevant to singlism, I knew it would be an even more exciting book if others would contribute, too.

And so they did! There are 28 bylines (other than my own) in the just-published book, Singlism: What It Is, Why It Matters, and How to Stop It. (Their names are listed at the end of this post.) Among the perspectives on singlism represented in the book are the personal, political, historical, religious, legal, clinical, economic, sociological, and psychological. There are media critiques, op-ed essays, and personal stories of standing up to singlism. Advocates and activists describe their successes and their challenges. Also included are sections on singlism's cousin (the stereotyping and stigmatizing of adults with no children) and on valuing all of the important people in our lives (and not just conjugal partners and children).

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It was such a joy for me to read each of the contributions. I hope you appreciate them as much as I do!

If you are interested, you can get Singlism from Amazon or from its own webpage. Let's discuss it some more when you've had a chance to take a look.

Here, with my thanks, is an alphabetical list of the contributors to Singlism. You will probably recognize many of the names, as they include people who have been long-time activists and advocates, people whose work I've written about or interviewed or linked to here or at my website, and people who have already contributed so much to our conversations about the various posts here and at my All Things Single blog.

1.      Lisa A., Ph.D.

2.      Rev. Mark Almlie

3.      Gina Barreca, Ph.D.

4.      Steven Bereznai

5.      Wendy Braitman

6.      Rachel Buddeberg

7.      Christina Campbell

8.      Thomas F. Coleman, J. D.

9.      "Crimson"

10.  Karen Foster

11.  Page Gardner

12.  Rajiv Garg

13.  Jaclyn Geller, Ph.D.

14.  Nicky Grist

15.  Jeanine

16.  Rachel F. Moran, J.D.

17.  Wendy L. Morris, Ph.D.

18.  Yasmin Nair

19.  Monica Pignotti, Ph.D.

20.  Psyngle

21.  Rev. Ann Schranz

22.  Singlutionary

23.  Rachel Stone

24.  E. Kay Trimberger, Ph.D.

25.  John Ullman

26.  Helen W.

27.  Wendy Wasson, Ph.D.

28.   Eleanore Wells

There is also a very informative discussion of what does and does not count as marital status or family responsibility discrimination in the workplace, courtesy of the Workplace Fairness website.

Bella DePaulo, Ph.D., is author of Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After. She is a visiting professor at UCSB.

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