I made up the word singlism. Although some people have made fun of me for it, I have to admit I'm kind of proud of it. I'm happy about how often and how widely it has been picked up, and I hope that each use of the term brings a bit of consciousness-raising along with it.
There have also been some uses that are just wrong. So today I want to tell you what singlism really does mean, and what it does not mean. Toward the end of this post, in the section, "Singlism in Context: Excerpts from Our First Few Uses," I quote paragraphs from Singled Out and two academic papers in which singlism was first defined.
This article has five sections:
I. What Singlism Is
II. What Singlism Is Not
III. Why I Think Singlism Belongs in the Dictionary: It has already shown up in
a. Newspapers and magazines
b. Television
c. Books
d. Textbooks
e. Journals
f. Professional presentations
IV. Singlism Has Already Been Recognized as a New Word
V. Singlism in Context: Excerpts from Our First Few Uses
Also check out the notes at the very end of the post.
I.
What Singlism Is
For a brief version, I like this two-sentence definition, though the first sentence can also stand on its own:
Singlism is the stigmatizing of adults who are single. It includes negative stereotyping of singles and discrimination against singles.
The word singlism is analogous to terms such as racism and sexism. If it were totally comparable, it would play on the phrase "marital status;" racism does not refer to a particular race nor sexism to a particular sex. But you see the problem: "marital-statusism" doesn't exactly roll off the tongue or lodge in the mind. So I named the marital status that was the target of the stereotyping and discrimination - single; single people are the ones getting hit by singlism.
II.
What Singlism Is Not
When I typed singlism into the Google search engine last week, I was delighted to get 4,940 results. I actually looked through all of them. Although some results were duplicates, there were also some significant omissions. Happily, the overwhelming majority of uses were accurate. When people got it wrong, they typically did not know this:
Singlism does NOT mean being single.
Here are three instances of incorrect usages:
- Wrong Use Example #1: "Please don't say that new housing is ‘needed' because of increased singlism and life-expectancy."
- Wrong Use Example #2: "Thank you Jesus for the wonderful gift of singlism."
- Wrong Use Example #3: "Whatever state of singlism you are in, February gives you the opportunity to expand your horizons."
III.
Why I Think Singlism Belongs in the Dictionary
According to Mental Floss,
"The rule of thumb at Oxford is that a word can't be included in the dictionary until it's appeared five times, in five different sources, over a period of 5 years."
Merriam-Webster published its own criteria in its FAQ section, though more vaguely:
"To be included in a Merriam-Webster dictionary, a word must be used in a substantial number of citations that come from a wide range of publications over a considerable period of time."
Singlism shows up often in the blogosphere, especially among the blogs listed in the "singles links and resources" section of this page. It appears in lots of other places as well. Below is a sampling. The complete newspaper listings in the Google search results were especially numerous, including national and international papers and articles written in languages I could not even identify. Under journals, I do not include any of the listings of my own publications.
NEWSPAPERS AND MAGAZINES
New York Times
One singular sensation
The Caucus: Rendell on Napolitano's ‘No Life'
A guide to embracing life as a single (without the resignation, that is)
The Wall Street Journal
The Juggle: Janet Napolitano and the persistence of ‘singlism'
Washington Post
On Balance: Singled Out
Associated Press
Living Single
Washington Times
Older single women live it up
The Week (no link in the Google search)
‘Singlism': Do only married people have lives? (December 19, 2008)
TELEVISION
The Tyra Banks Show (thanks, Keysha Whitaker!)
ABC news
BOOKS:
Family Ties and Aging
Women and Men in Management
TEXTBOOKS:
Social Psychology (12th edition)
Psychology Applied to Modern Life
JOURNALS
Sex Roles
Perfidious and pernicious singlism
European Journal of Social Psychology
Group commitment in the face of discrimination: The role of legitimacy
Hastings Law Journal
The single taxpayer in a joint return world
Social Work Practice
The Negative Stereotyping of single Persons Scale (by our friend Monica Pignotti!)
Journal of Consumer Marketing
Baby boom singles
Human Resource Management Journal
Work-life policy implementation: Breaking down or creating barriers to inclusiveness?
Association for Psychological Science: Observer
Love's labor's found
PROFESSIONAL PRESENTATIONS
Berkeley Center for the Study of Law and Society
Singlism: Do the Rights of Unmarried Workers Need Protection?
Mario Barnes, U.C. Irvine Law School
Society for the Interdisciplinary Study of Social Imagery
The Stigma of Single: Singlism in the 21st Century and Finding the Happily Ever After
Diane Matuschka, University of North Florida
Association for Consumer Research
Party of one: The single's response to marketing singlism
Aubrey Fowler, University of Nevada, Las Vegas
