When I started reading the article I'm going to quote in this post, I didn't expect it to have anything to do with single or married life. It is a New York Times story from a few weeks ago (yes, I'm way behind) on whether a child should have a best friend.
A camp director who was quoted in the article thought not. Here's what he told the reporter:
"I don't think it's particularly healthy for a child to rely on one friend. If something goes awry, it can be devastating. It also limits a child's ability to explore other options in the world."
Think about that for a moment. Are you allowing yourself a bemused smile? I did. I eagerly continued reading, to see whether there would be any acknowledgement that a similar argument could be made about adults who practice what I call "intensive coupling" (looking to their partner to be their everything).
A scholar was quoted a little later in the story who thought children should be encouraged to have best friends. He did mention coupling, but not at all in the way I had in mind. Here's what he said:
"Imagine the implication for romantic relationships. We want children to get good at leading close relationships, not superficial ones."