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Sashaying Solo into the White House State Dinner – and Much More

I'm far more impressed by two other legitimate guests at the White House state dinner - each sashayed solo into the festivities. Imagine doing that, amidst all the glitter and the cameras, and the hundreds of other guests, each clutching a partner. That, I think, takes real confidence and a sense of self. Also in this post: a single person's thanks, 10 tremendous singles, some jeers, and a few new singles-relevant sites.

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1) Jon Favreau showed up SOLO

1) Jon Favreau showed up SOLO (all caps). And he showed up with his mom! And he showed up without a date!! Amazing how all of these sentences seem to (in the media's mind at least) MEAN THE SAME THING!

2) Onely got hit up by Meet Market too. I had sort of intended to post about them, and maybe I still will. I was not comfortable engaging with them for two reasons: One--I thought the name, while a somewhat clever parody, still was kind of creepy and actually contradicted their claim that they are not a dating group. Two--and more disturbing than the name--the pictures on the home page feature only white people, as far as I could tell (maybe one hispanic-looking guy). Now, I realize that many many websites, clubs, TV shows, clothing catalogs, etc etc feature almost all white people, and that it's not from malice, but rather indifference. (Which is still kind of not right.) And not only that, but it looks as if the pictures they chose for the home page contained only people who fit a certain "attractiveness" mold (um, LL Bean), which is what a *dating* site would do.

Christina

Meet Market Adventures

Hi Christina, I'd like to thank you for acknowledging MMA and happy to hear another persons perspective on our company.

In regards to our name, I'm not quite sure how it relates directly to dating? Broken down, "meet market adventures" is meant to be a catchy name implying a collection of activities where people have a variety of choice and freedom to partake in group settings. What their personal intentions are when they sign up for an event are beyond our control.

As for the pictures on the home page, they are in fact stereotypical, however they are stock photo's. A visit to our facebook page: (http://www.facebook.com/#/meetmarketadventures?ref=ts) is a much more accurate representation of what MMA looks like, I encourage you to take a look. If we wanted the pictures on the homepage to look like a typical dating site we wouldn't have so many group shots and our pictures of people would appear to be alot more "intimate". As for fitting a certain "attractiveness", yes they do seem to be visually appealing, I suppose that is just a business related decision. Agreed, the pictures could be more diverse, but wouldn't that be catering to a stereotypes as well? Having a token gender and race to make sure we fill our multicultural quota could be just as damaging.

I thank you again for voicing your opinion and concerns and I would like to extend an invitation to any of our events if you are ever in the Toronto, Vancouver or New York area.

Danielle

I'm so happy to be included

I'm so happy to be included in your round-up! Thank you!

another cheers

Another cheers - as I enrolled for my new health plan at work last month, I found that they added a "spousal surcharge" for employees who add a spouse to their plan -- but only if the spouse doesn't have insurance available elsewhere. Why should my rates go up because someone's spouse has lots of health problems? A spouse who doesn't even do any WORK for the company. My employer explained that they were doing this to keep costs down for all employees. Singles have subsidized spouses for long enough, so I was happy to hear about this!! And I guess my employer finally realized that it was unfair for everyone else if non-employees increased their health costs.

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Bella DePaulo, Ph.D., is author of Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After. She is a visiting professor at UC Santa Barbara.

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