Laughter is a potent love medicine. It is an intimacy builder for couples. It feels good to laugh and let go. Laughter can go a long way in helping you resolve your issues, like it did for Abe and Lydia (pseudonyms for counseling clients of mine) who were having issues with a 14-year-old daughter, Elaine.
Elaine's teen rebellion was taking a toll on their marriage. Abe often lost his temper with Elaine, especially when she wore what he thought we're skimpy outfits or played her rap music too loudly. Lydia was caught in the middle and resented Abe for "losing it" since he was the adult.
Lydia: "Our house was so depressing. It was like we were all sneaking around trying not to notice each other and get another big fight. He resented me for not supporting him more. Elaine resented me for not supporting her more. I was really starting to get one down from all this. Abe and I hadn't connected in months."
She added, "One night when Elaine and I got home from the mall, we found Abe dressed in the most ridiculous outfit – tight jeans and a cut off T-shirt. He even had high heels on. He started dancing like a wild man around the kitchen to one of Elaine's favorite songs. We all started cracking up. This really cut the tension. It was not complete fix, but it helped. Not only did Elaine feel like she could finally talk to Abe, I felt much more like I was able to connect with him after that, too. We had forgotten how to laugh and have fun, both as a family and as a couple. "