The best discipline you can give your child is to have the self-discipline to not overreact. Read More
When a kid is "misbehaving," you've got to look at the whole family system. As you mention in your post, parents have to check their egos at the door, etc., etc., but I wonder how many parents are willing, if even able, to do so?
Why can't we keep our ego at the side, when it is the matter of our kids' good? We can, I am sure! This is because when it comes to choosing between kid's character development and ego, the former weighs more. Only this awareness can make all parents able to depart with ego for some time.
Here's one more anti-defiant way, stop advising every now and then. In fact,give the freedom and pace to them for understanding things, people, and situation and all will be fine. As a tip, tell them indirectly, may be by gifting a book.
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Jeffrey Bernstein, Ph.D., has authored four books, including 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child.
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