What are the most successful ways to manage defiant children at home and in the classroom? Surprisingly it’s not the use of tough consequences. When you respond harshly to a defiant child, you are only fueling the defiant behavior. The more self-discipline you have to stay in control of your negative reactions, the less conflict you will have with defiant children.
If you want to inspire positive, lasting changes in kids, you must manage your own strong reactions, and respond in a calm, systematic way. Here are 5 proven tips for handling defiant children. They are detailed in my, 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child.
When encountering defiant children at home or in the classroom, use these five strategies to lower their defiance:
* Be mindful. Remember that the defiant child is struggling with feelings of inadequacy.
* Avoid yelling. Yelling only fans the flames of defiance.
* Resist power struggles. Defiant children believe they are equal in authority to adults. This makes it futile to try to beat them in the power struggle game.