On Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Insight

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Finding the Possible in Impossible Relationships

“She had done the usual trick—been nice. She would never know him. He would never know her. Human relations were all like that, she thought, and the worst…were between men and women.” - Virginia Woolf, To the Lighthouse Read More


I am greatful other people cannnot see the thoughts behind my smile.
Knowing you're weird is hard enough. Harmlesly weird, but still.
It makes keeping a job that pays the bills difficult. Knowing how to play along, and act "normal" is a skill I learned very young.


But what about Mrs. Ramsay's extraordinary orchestration of the dinner table? Surely not just a play of surfaces? More like a therapeutic encounter? Depth is not always verbal, nor accessed by verbal conversation....

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Dana S. Iyer, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Laguna Hills, California.


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