"I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine" The Song of Solomon 6:3
Their eyes and bodies expressed such awe and reverence for each other. They found their "bashert" and sang out in unison "I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine". Under the "chupah" they built with a canopy and four poles, they "davened" together in waves of pure ecstasy. It is said in the Hebrew tradition that when two people join in love, a voice from heaven announces the merging of the souls. In Hebrew your lover or spouse is your "Bashert", which means destiny. The word for prayer , " Daven" comes from the same Latin root as the English word "divine" and emphasizes the "One" to whom the prayer is directed. Davening is done silently or out loud, or chanted through song. When one davens they also rock back and forth, bending and bowing in reverence. In every moment we have the choice to "daven" and consciously bless, honor and love our "bashert" as the divine. It's this kind of conscious recognition and connection that aligns and sparks our energies to co-create and experience true mojo with another. Our relationships stay juicy and alive when we remember to greet our beloveds with humility and respect, as if we were entering a sacred temple in Greece or India or greeting the Dalai Lama or Amma Chi. In Hebrew, the words for bride and groom are kallah which means Queen and chatan which means King. We create sacred sexuality when we remember that we are in the presence of the beloved Queen and King and express unconditional compassion, honor and love. This devotion creates a holy supportive environment to love and pray in. Sacred sexuality is such a potent and effective dance, where beloveds pray and bow to the One, the holy source and ascend into sacred and mystical states of consciousness and ecstasy together. Life in a body is a pure blessing in that it offers us a divine opportunity to feel the manifestation of spirit as deep pleasure and raw emotion, through Sacred Sexuality. When we approach sexual union as a holy journey we get to consciously explore and transform our own personal relationship to intimacy and sensual aliveness and recognize and heal any wounds that stop us from loving and feeling, and expressing our true nature. In the Hebrew tradition couples do a personal Yom Kippur by fasting, reflecting and praying from dawn until their wedding ceremony the next day so they can be more aware of and connected to their own body, mind and spirit before they enter into sacredness with their beloved. Like any ritual or ceremony, it's important to ground ourselves and be centered before we unite with another.