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Bode Miller Unplugged

After winning the Bronze, skier Bode Miller became emotional remembering his recently deceased brother, pro snowboarder Chelone. As tears streamed down his face, NBC interviewer Christin Cooper asked one more insightful question, to which Bode put down his head and wept. Did Cooper cross the line? Is it appropriate for global television to train its lens on a weeping man? Read More


Thanks for this clarification of what went on in the Miller interview. I had only seen a very skewed version from the press against the interviewer, yet the press is in the very business of doing what she was did. They seem to want to go which way the wind might be blowing, so if they can creat a controversy about it, they get more readership and viewership from it. I just tend to tune it all out. No TV since 2010 has been a godsend for my wife and me. (I do get news like this from my computer.) Thanks again, Glenn

Beautiful and thoughtful

Beautiful and thoughtful analysis. Thank you.

The only reason people

The only reason people freaked out over the question is because everyone is afraid of their own feelings.


thank you for another wonderful piece on educating others about grief and loss, especially so on the birthday of my own deceased sister. you are the best!

Poor judgement

I think it's unfair that Christin Cooper is being portrayed as a monster that puts ratings before people's feelings. I'm sure this isn't the case. Bode Miller brought up his brother and continued answering questions. But does that doesn't mean that now anything goes

"Unplugged" claims Cooper's interview did not go too far and that her "sorry" was an expression of condolences rather than an apology. What I heard was that When miller started to cry, Cooper realized she went too far. Although Cooper clearly saw Miller was starting to unravel after the first question, I don't think she expected him to completely fall apart. This was obviously Miller's understanding also. Miller's defended Cooper saying "she didn't anticipate my reaction until it was too late." (Miller never defended NBC. He actually retweeted someone's post suggesting that it was all NBC's fault.) if the truth is
that this wasn't a mistake, NBC has no right to hide behind Bode Miller's defense.

Cooper wasn't putting Miller through the wringer, his brothers death was? His brother died almost a year before. I'm sure he's had happy times since then. Winning a metal should have been one of these times. Cooper had already given Miller an opportunity to say all that he wanted about his brother. The subject should have been considered exhausted after Miller could barely answer the second question. Miller had no way of knowing that Cooper would ask another question about his brother. So at this point

"Unplugged" praises the interview for giving Miller the opportunity to share in his grief. But what if he didn't want thAt opportunity? If Miller wanted to cry in front of millions of people why did he appear to be doing all that he could to fight back tears? Unplugged assumes that Miller was not embarrassed because he was "open and honest" about the "floodgates opening." But what other choice did he have but to answer honestly? He was a little past the point where he could have made up a lame story about his allergies acting up. (Btw, ask anyone living at sea level. It's not always a good thing when floodgates open.)

NBC obviously thought this would be a story that people wanted. However, It seems that the vast majority of people were disgusted by this interview. I hope NBC will understand the difference between negative and positive attention and show a little more compassion and discretion next time

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Deborah L. Davis, Ph.D., is a developmental psychologist and author of 6 books, including one about perinatal hospice titled A Gift of Time.


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