Just Listen

The secret to getting through to anyone, anywhere, anytime.

by Dr. Mark Goulston

The Single Best Tip Before You Give Your Heart to Someone

Years ago I was the creator of Recoupling Therapy where I helped divorced ex-spouses successfully get back together. It caught national attention and landed me on Today, Oprah and in the N.Y. Times and Los Angeles Times. Read More

Election 2012: "Candidates Obama and Romney, Come Out, Come Out, Whoever You Are"

Until you know what someone stands for, stands up for and stands up against, you don’t know who they are. Read More

Why Gay Marriage Frightens Some Men and Women

Me thinks the anti gay marriage men and women doth protest too much. Read More

Avenger Fever: The Blockbuster Formula

What is the secret formula of a blockbuster? Read More

Healing Healthcare

Shouldn't we focus on incentivizing patients and providers to keep patients out of hospitals? Read More

NBA Playoffs: What Makes Clutch players Tick?

The final moments are the places where neurochemistry, phylogeny and hyperfocus meet. Read More

Disappointment vs. Dysappointment

Disappointment is merely an unmet expectation; it’s only when you imbue it with negative meanings that it becomes painfu.l Read More

Calling All Women Executives

Let’s face it. Many men are masters at baiting, in that they know how to easily bait you and press your buttons in a way that causes you to take the bait, go off balance, become submissive or defensive and then in that moment of imbalance, vulnerability and reactivity when you can’t think clearly they go for the jugular and with little difficulty find it. Read More

How to Stand Up to Blamers, Whiners and Complainers

A whiner is a yeller in sheep’s clothing; A yeller is a whiner in creep’s clothing Read More

The Pursuit of Happiness: How Far Along Are You?

Is it my imagination or have these fallen through the cracks of our digital world? Read More

President's Day, 2012: In Praise of George W., as in Washington

In anticipation of President’s Day and the current partisan logjam, hunger for power and lack of grace and graciousness, we might take a lesson from the President we are honoring on Monday, February 20, 2012. Read More

Happy Valentine's Day—Are You Listening?

She: “You need to work harder on this relationship?” He: “What the f— does that mean?” Read More

Rage—Coming Soon From a Narcissist Near You

Hell hath no fury and contempt as a narcissist you dare to disagree with, tell they’re wrong or embarrass. Read More

Potential Is a Terrible Thing to Waste

When you hit an obstacle in life and reach inside for inner strength to deal with it, what do you come up with? Read More

Having Horror Heard Helps Heal Hurt

There is no statute of limitations nor training manual to get you over or even beyond the horrors you can inflict on another human being in the name of war that you then have to then live with the rest of your life. Read More

Beware of (Horny) Men Bearing (Empty) Promises

Men like having sex much more than they like responsibility. And women don’t mind and even like sex, but they can’t stand empty promises by men to get it from them. Read More

New Year's Resolutions: 20 Ways to Win Friends and Influence People at Work

1. Be on time and prepared for meetings. That alone will make you shine like a star. 2. Turn in work ahead of schedule. Forget procrastination, get things done early plus 18 more Read More

Overcome Holiday Shyness: Be More Interested Than Interesting

I am a founding member of the “dread going/glad I went” club of socially shy people. I am also a Role Specific Extrovert. That means that when the occasion calls for me to be “out there” I strap on some courage and give it my best shot, but it doesn’t come naturally. Read More

How Worthy Are You? 10 Measures of Self-Esteem - Take the Quiz

Self-esteem should not be confused with self-confidence. Self-confidence is believing in your competence and your ability to do something, whereas self-esteem is believing in your goodness. Read More

For a Happy Holiday... Papertrain Your Problem Relatives

An ounce of flattery will get you a Merry Xmas and Happy New Year Read More

Campaign 2012 - All the Candidates' Wives - Going for the Soft Sell

When candidates have shown too much of their political ambition, they push their wives to the front to do damage control humanize their image. Read More

Couples Therapy Made Simple

CBCT is not for everyone. It is not for people who, rather than being committed to making their relationship stronger and better, feel that they have to be right and have to get their way. Read More

From Reactive to Reflective Parenting

Interview with one of the pioneers in reflective parenting. Read More

Cain Not Able: What Was Herman Cain Thinking?

We don't yet know what or if there will be a "bawdy count" of stories regarding Herman Cain that will now be exposed. If so, he will likely have the strong negative reactions that Bill Clinton and Tiger Woods triggered by their amoral activities. Read More

America: Land of the Takers

How can American go from getting, having and holding on to giving, sharing and letting go? Read More

Why Are Americans So Unhappy? - How We Can Fix It

If Americans weren't happy with more, how are they ever going to be happy with less? Read More

Meditation for Non-Meditators

Given all the disquieting things around us concerning the volatility of the world economies and stock markets, jobs, etc. and how the powerlessness that people feel has crossed over into anger and rage, I thought it would be a good time to learn how to calm our minds. Now I will admit that I am not someone who has ever been able to do that. Read More

How to Raise a Secure Child in Anxious Times - Part 1: Put on the Oxygen Mask First

These are the times that try everyone's souls, addle people's brains and agitate their minds. Read More

Penn State: The Psychology of the Failure to Report

Let he who has experienced horror and terror and frozen in their tracks throw the first stone. Read More

NBA Star Jerry West Reveals Lifelong Depression

When you hit an obstacle or wall or defeat and reach inside yourself, what do you come up with? Read More

Mark Goulston, M.D., is the author of the new bestselling book Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone.

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About Just Listen

Reached #1 ranking in six kindle business categories at Amazon.com and #1 in China and Germany for US business books. The essence of the book is that if you want to get through to people you need to leave "your here" and go to "their there" and listen in a way in which they not only feel understood, but "feel felt." When that happens and people sense that you are there to help and mean them no harm, they will open up their hearts and minds to you.