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The Folly of Frequently Foregoing Foreplay

It is well accepted, with regard to varied goals and pursuits, that preparation improves performance and facilitates succes. And yet when it comes to sexual intercourse, adequate preparation is often neglected. Such neglect may come at a price. Read More


I totally agree that more foreplay is good. However, the article seems to imply that many couples agree to skip foreplay. I would suggest that more often one partner wants foreplay while the other does not. And it's usually the one who wants to skip it who gets her way.

And to blow the stereotype presented in the article, in my case it's my wife who has never wanted foreplay. I never was able to convince her of its benefit. She seems creeped out about all that intimate touching and would rather move straight to intercourse.

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Noam Shpancer, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at Otterbein College and a practicing clinical psychologist in Columbus, Ohio.


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