Insight Is 20/20

Exploring the pervasive, and unperceived, patterns that govern our lives

by Seth Meyers and Katie Gilbert

Fear of Intimacy: Men (Secretly) Afraid of Relationships

Relationships, I find, are more scary for men than for women because of the different ways the two genders handle emotions. Read More

Understanding the Sociopath: Cause, Motivation, Relationship

The sociopath is full of contradictions, and he - and sometimes, she - remains misunderstood by society. Will we ever truly understand the mysterious and nonsensical mind of the sociopath? Read More

Your Sex Number: A Scale of Sexual Desire and Libido

Knowing what number you are can help you figure out who is good for you and who is not, and can prevent you from taking things personally in the bedroom. Read More

Reality TV & Psychotherapy's and Psychology's Reputation

Is a new reality show the wave of the future or the beginning of the end for psychotherapy and its reputation as a serious and private emotional endeavor? Read More

Men Obsessed With Sex: The Stereotype Is True?

Research on the friendships between men and women suggests that the awful stereotype of men as sex-obsessed is alive and well today. Read More

Boycott Makeup in Dating: Let Men See the Real You

Women should try the occasional date without makeup to consciously remind themselves that they should be attractive enough to men as they are naturally. Read More

The Difficult Child: Hope & Coping for Frustrated Parents

As insensitive as it may sound, some children are more difficult than others. Parents, mourn the loss and get some tips on how to cope better. Read More

Friends With Benefits: Four Rules to Avoid Heartbreak

Looking for a friends-with-benefits situation often leads to heartbreak, but it doesn't have to if you follow a few basic rules. Read More

Dating Anxiety: Ten Tips on How to Enjoy Dating More

Dating doesn't have to be a horror story in 3D. Following some basic tips can make your romantic interactions easier and more successful! Read More

How Financial Problems & Stress Cause Divorce

Improve your relationship with money or your romantic relationship will suffer. Read More

Holiday Entertaining Tips: How to Avoid Arguments, Get Along

Holiday parties should be enjoyed by the guests and host, so why do the hosts always end up feeling so stressed? Read More

Divorced Parents: Kids Should Decide Where They Live/Custody

Divorced parents may need to set aside their own feelings and egos, and let the kids decide who they want to live with. Read More

Why Dating Is Like a Job Interview: Be a Smart Dater

Approach dating like interviewing for a job, and you'll find romantic success. Read More

How Parents Can Handle Teenage Independence & Protect Teens

If parents should trust their children, how should the parents show it? Read More

Presidential Debates: What's the Point of Them?

Watching a presidential debate these days is like watching an anything-goes reality show: nothing good comes from it. Read More

An Open Letter to Honey Boo Boo's Mom

This show is the face of some of the most serious problems of American society today. Read More

Swingers: Mentally Healthier Than Monogamous Peers

Living the swinging lifestyle reflects a lot about swingers, and as much about those who judge the lifestyle. Read More

Having Only One Child: Easier for Parents, But Also Better for the Child?

A friend's comment about an adult-ified child got me thinking about whether having only one child makes more sense than having two or more. Read More

Loving Men With Bad Tempers: Why They Get Away With It and How to Stop Them

If someone you love has a temper, you need to put them on notice and let them know that time is running out and that they better change soon. Read More

Sex Rules: Four Things You Should Always Do During Sex

Men and women often have sex on auto-pilot, but following four simple rules can help them have a happier and healthier sex life! Read More

"Hope Springs:" A Seriously Unrealistic Relationship Between Meryll and Tommy

A new film presents a romantic relationship few people will be able to relate to. Read More

During Sex, Is it Okay to Fantasize About Someone Else?Why?

Fantasizing about someone other than your partner isn't necessarily wrong or unhealthy. The most important point is to take inventory of when and how often you do it! Read More

What a Narcissist Looks Like in Dating: How to Spot Signs

Narcissists should be avoided when you encounter them in the dating world. Read More

Dating Checklist: Questions to Ask Yourself Before Falling In Love Again

Good relationships start with good decisions, and evaluating your beliefs about relationships and love before you start a relationship is the most important thing you can do. Read More

Breakup Etiquette: Five Things to Say and Do When You End a Relationship

The list of things you shouldn’t say or do during a breakup is long, much longer than the list of things you should say and do as you say goodbye. Everyone has a story or two to share about a painful breakup, one where hurtful things were said and done, leaving wounds that would take years to truly heal. Read More

Loving Broken Men: Rescuing Mr. Potential, Part 2

The only way to change who you’re attracted to is to change your behaviors first. If you find yourself attracted to broken men — men who have tons of potential but haven’t yet owned up to it — you repeat a pattern I call ‘rescuing wounded souls.’ In Part 1 of this post, I described who the rescuer is and how the rescuer feels in her relationships. Read More

Loving Broken Men: Rescuing Mr. Potential, Part 1

If we filled a fountain with a quarter for every woman who’s loved and tried to save a broken man, we could probably fill Niagara Falls. This destructive relationship pattern—what I call rescuing wounded souls—is one of the most common relationship problems that face women today. Read More

An Open Letter to Kim Kardashian: Signed, Your Imaginary Living Father

Dear Kim,

We haven’t met but, as a therapist who works with many young women, I must say that I’m worried about you. As a therapist and father, I want to express my concerns for you. Read More

Sex Rules: Three Things You Never Do During Sex

The laundry list of things you should never say or do during sex is long, but most of them are commonplace errors everyone already knows to avoid. A few sex behaviors, however, continue to cause problems in relationships. Read More

Why Straight Women Are Attracted to Gay Men

In many ways, gay men and straight women are a perfect pairing. For the most part, relationships between gay men and straight women are healthy and positive, with one exception I'll get to later. In the vast majority of cases, relationships between gay men and straight women are platonic. Read More