A budding romance holds the promise of wonderful things: real intimacy, steady companionship, and the end of loneliness that many singles feel until they make that ultimate connection. Yet one reality that haunts far too many relationships is an enmeshed relationship between a grown man and his mother, a dynamic that is captured in the vernacular with the term "Mama's boy."
A romantic relationship is doomed to suffer if a new husband relies too heavily on his mother for anything, whether it is money, approval or emotional support. Inevitably, she becomes triangulated into the relationship between the couple and becomes the object of razor-sharp resentment from the wife.
Yet the very women who later clench their teeth in bitterness at the mother who gets too close and the husband who can't let her go often see the warning signs of the dysfunctional codependent mother-son relationship in the dating process. In other words, the mother-son relationship doesn't become dysfunctional after the marriage; it is strong enough to survive — and, in some cases, outlast — the marriage.
Here are some warning signs that the man you're dating or married to is a Mama's boy: