We Americans can be a puritanical bunch. Our culture finds the use of curse words to be such a repulsive habit, yet I have to admit, I've just never understood why. What, may I ask, is so wrong with swearing?
Feeling tempted to throw out the occasional curse word is fairly natural. Where people differ is in their respective embrace or avoidance of this temptation. What about you: Do you try not to swear, or are you okay with swearing as a rule?
I myself am guilty of using curse words on a fairly regular basis. While I occasionally use them to show emphasis, I primarily use them as a vehicle to vent negative feelings. While everyone - me included - may occasionally be guilty of what I call superfluous swearing (i.e., "this dessert is so f*cking good"), most bad words pop out when a person is flooded with a negative emotion. Over time, I have developed my theory on the topic and it's now quite simple and specific: I believe that how you feel about swearing mirrors your attitude toward showing anger.
I've seen it firsthand in my clinical work: most people avoid showing anger and consider it to be one of the ‘bad' emotions that we're somehow not supposed to feel - that is, if you're a relatively happy, well-adjusted individual. Oh, if you could see me throwing my arms in the air in frustration (and of course silently uttering a curse word) at the thought of it! Quite to the contrary: Anger is good, and so is swearing.