In the Name of Love

A few months after the start of his relationship with his girlfriend, a man told her, "I love you, darling," to which she replied, "That is a very serious statement; you should think it over." He responded, "My love is certainly serious, but I do not have to think about it, because it feels so natural to me." Is love a serious emotion? And if so, how should it be expressed?  Read More

There are various activities that we use for coping with conflicts in our romantic relationships. These activities range from one-sided activities, such as coercion and surrender, to the most interactive ones, such as compromise and complementation. I suggest that compromise and complementation are the most useful manners of conflict resolution in romantic relationships.  Read More

Our romantic life is made more complex by the many alternatives available to us]. Some of these alternatives are clearly good for us while others can prove] harmful. One of the easiest ways to avoid the bad alternatives is to steer clear of those situations in which the bad alternatives are more prone to tempt us. In other words, we can protect ourselves by refusing to get anywhere near the brink of the slippery slope. In this post, I point out some difficulties of such an attitude. Read More

For some people, taking a lover may seem a solution to the dullness of marriage, but this can prove rather a problematic solution for many emotional and moral reasons. Some people suggest that one way of dealing with these difficulties is to take an old lover. The view, presented here by two people, runs contrary to the popular belief that a young lover is better.  Read More