In the Name of Love

A philosopher looks at our deepest emotions.

Loving Too Much

Love is morally desirable as it entails profound care for another person. It is hard to see how such positive care can be criticized. Nevertheless, people do criticize lovers and especially those whose love appears to be excessive. Can one tell one's beloved that he loves her too much?  Read More

i believe that any excessive

i believe that any excessive emotion is a sign that something is going wrong

It is very possible...

to love someone too much. It smothers them and drives them away.

This happened to me. I met

This happened to me. I met my "soul mate" a few years back. She confessed her to love to me at a weekend getaway (we were in a cover band together) and it was like a switch flipped on inside of me that i've not been able to shut off since. I fell head over heels in love in the most extreme way. It was the same for her for quite awhile but then one day her switch just flipped off and it was no longer there for her. I'm still trying to find a way to turn it off and I'm beginning to suspect I never will. It's really a shame too because I've been unable to have any meaningful relationships since then. It's pretty much ruined me. Luckily there is more to life than love..........but I'll never feel the same sort of fulfillment again. I had it.........I had it and I lost it because I couldn't handle it. Life.......sucks

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Aaron Ben-Zeév, Ph.D., is President and Professor of Philosophy at the University of Haifa. His books include: In the Name of Love: Romantic Ideology and its Victims.

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