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Love is a very profound and complex experience involving serious, yet enjoyable games that two can play and both win. Read More
being yourself
even though this makes a lot of sense, i still think its preferred that a person becomes himself, not playing hard to get or easy to get but just being himself may result in a more healthy relationship
Well I never found the
Well I never found the romantic and/or sexual "bond" really that enjoyable. There is nothing romantic about the reality of "love". Human mating nothing else whatever the chemical cocktail suggests.
Just be yourself does not work for all cases, you know.
Women don't want to be seen as promiscuous because it damages their status and might lead to some unwanted competition. Better play it safe and be "promiscuous" where nobody sees it.
Damn I could puke but thats the reality as it seems. The best humans can have is to not be an idealist, not know about this stuff and have the requirements for "love" without knowing it. Then it might be possible to enjoy. God I wish I were more ruthless and pragmatic.
Love
True love involves deep commitment and trust. Its work plain and simple. Most people cannot pull it off. The other option is Promiscuity. Its a dirty world out there full of selfcenter people and really its about the other person and its a lot of WORK.
KNOWING WHEN
SOMETIMES, PLAYING HARD-TO-GET IS BEING YOURSELF; SOMETIMES, PLAYING EASY-TO-GET IS BEING YOURSELF; SOMETIMES, NONE OF THE ABOVE - IF BEING YOURSELF IS NOT WORKING, THEN THE VENTURE PROBABLY ISN'T WORTH THE RISK
where to draw the line?
How hard to get is TOO hard to get? And how promiscuous is too easy to get? It makes sense that keeping distance would help in a long term relationship because of the way it naturally slows the pace of the relationship, but there has to be that point where you have kept too much distance and now the reach to get you is too much effort for the other person. You say playing hard to get is less effective for men and I think that hits the nail on the head. I think girls like to see the effort to give attention put in by men, and when that isn't there it really hurts the connection.
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