Thanks Cindy for your kind words. Intense emotions are essentially transient and unstable states. Emotions are typically experienced when we perceive a significant change in our situation. Like burglar alarms going off when an intruder appears, emotions signal that something needs attention; when no attention is needed, the signaling system can be switched off. We respond to the unusual by paying attention to it. When we are within our familiar boundaries, emotions are typically not intense; they become so when we violate these boundaries and encounter the novel. In the romantic realm, this is often associated with emotional infidelity. Such infidelity, then, opens for many people various emotional experiences not felt within their familiar boundaries. By saying this, I do not endorse or condemn such infidelity, I am merely saying that in such a case emotional availability is typically greater.