"Torn between two lovers feeling like a fool, loving both of you is breaking all the rules" (Mary MacGregor).
Empirical evidence clearly suggests that humans are capable of loving and having sex with more than one person at the same time. Indeed, most people I interviewed for the book, In the Name of Love: Romantic Ideology and its Victims, said that they can romantically love, and actually have loved, a few people at the same time.
Esther, a widow who was a great advocate of Romantic Ideology, confesses: "In the seven-plus years that I have been dating since the death of my husband, I have never been seeing just one person." Also Iris, who was married to the father of her children for fifteen years, loved two people at the same time: "I got involved with another man while I was still living with my husband. We did it openly. My husband even supported it for a while and the three of us lived together—to see if we could make it work. During that brief period, I had sex with both of them—one upstairs and one downstairs."
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