What do these Scandinavians have in mind?
I heard the news this morning as I drove out to my usual bicycling route. On NPR, Elie Wiesel was sounding gracious but befuddled, as if it were he who had been wakened with incomprehensible news. Then I was off pedaling, so I got to digest the announcement without exposure to commentary.
With patients who are indecisive about commitment, I find myself asking them what a given act means. Moving in, buying a house together, marrying - do these choices say that you must enter a fixed gender role, live forever in the same city, agree to sex on demand, enjoy the same movies? I think about language and Wittgenstein's example of the game, a seemingly straightforward concept that eludes explicit definition, because as humans we play with concepts, use them in all sorts of ways. They may have core functions and meanings, but finally institutions are tools that serve our purposes.















