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The Self-Compassion Playlist

Stress-reducing songs to fight the winter blues.
Juliana Breines
This post is a response to The Self-Esteem Playlist by Juliana Breines, Ph.D.

The new tear can be an exciting time, but it can also bring its share of stress as we find ourselves falling off the resolution wagon and having trouble getting back into work-mode after the holidays. It's a time when expectations are high, but reality is often lagging behind. If you're suffering from the winter blues, music can be a powerful mood-lifter. Below is a list of my favorite self-compassion songs--songs that can help to increase feelings of self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness, self-compassion's core elements. They're not necessarily the most cheerful songs, but research shows that listening to mood-congruent music can actually be more soothing than listening to upbeat music if you're feeling down—the music is like a sympathetic friend who empathizes with what you're going through. 

1. Angel, Sarah McLachlan

2. Let it Be, The Beatles

3. Heal Over, KT Tunstall   

4. In Your Own Grace, Carrie Manolakos

5. You Are a Part of Everything, Josh Kelley

6. Everybody Hurts, REM

7. Long Time Sun, Snatam Kaur

8. Enjoy The Ride, Ricky Skaggs & Kentucky Thunder

9. Home, Philip Philips

10. Hold On, Wilson Phillips

11. Stuck in a Moment You Can't Get Out Of, U2

12. Three Little Birds, Bob Marley

13. I Believe in You, Amanda Marshall

14. Shine, Benjamin Francis Leftwich

15. Old Friend, Sea Wolf

16. Fix You, Coldplay

17. Shine On, Daisy May Erlewine

18. Red & White & Blue & Gold, Aoife O'Donovan

19. You Got the Love, The Source Feat. Candi Staton

20. Untitled 4, Sigur Ros


Juliana Breines, Ph.D. is a postdoctoral fellow at Brandeis University.


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