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Dying for It

Autassassinophilia is a paraphilia in which an individual derives sexual pleasure and arousal by the thought and/or risk of being killed. Although rare, there are a number of documented cases of two lovers in a consensual ‘murder pact.’ But what is the psychology behind such behaviour and what are the moral and ethical considerations? Read More

How does this begin?

Can we get a little background. I assume this is something a person learns to be excited about. Is it?
What sort of things should we look out for in our kids, or when we are dating, or any other time for that matter?
I assume this is sort of thing is formed under some fairly extreme conditions or is it like alcoholism. As the tolerance increases you need more to get to the same place.

I would like to say nice post but this isn't. It is shocking, interesting, informative, and maybe a little scary.

Thanks for the post

replying as a non-expert

The theory is these kinds of fetishes can develop as a combination of your nature and nurture, particularly emotionally difficult experiences in childhood which are later sexualized. But it's also somewhat random in the sense that another person with the same childhood experiences might not develop the same sexual fetishes.

I suspect that a number of problematic sexual fetishes are more common than is generally supposed, but that the great majority of such people do NOT act on those impulses because they are socially responsible and understand the consequences. It's only the few who act on those impulses who make the news.

So the answers to your questions would seem to that, yes, it's something that someone learns to be excited about, but often only in circuitous ways which are sometimes hard to predict.

As for tolerance increasing etc., that seems to assume that a fetish is a fundamentally different sexual desire than say, heterosexual desire. I don't think your sexual desire circuits know the difference between what's morally good and bad. So does tolerance for a person of the opposite sex increase? Maybe, to some degree, so that might be the answer.

What to look for when dating? If they're socially skilled you would have no way of digging it out any more than from someone who hides if they are gay or straight. Just think of the many couples who've been married for many years, and yet one partner suddenly finds out the other is into something shocking. So if they can't figure it out, how are you going to figure it out on a date if they don't tell you?

So, in summary, I think the problem isn't what fetish someone might have, but rather if they are socially responsible enough to channel it into just fantasy or harmless role play or not act on it at all.

I'm confused

I am a little confused because I don't understand how one will get sexually satisfied from being eaten. I do appreciate the article and how it is written. It gives references and other doctors opinions. This lets me know that autassassinophilia is real because when i first saw the article my thoughts were, "This can't be real!" Reading the article also enlightened me on other paraphilias that i never heard of before. Thanks Dr. Griffiths

It's more the thought or the

It's more the thought or the idea of being eaten. One doesn't actually need to do something that directly stimulates sexually, as with intercourse. A good example of that is masturbation to fantasy of having sex. I would have to assume that these people self-stimulate when they participate in these activities.

Surely you've had a sexual fantasy while sitting in class, without being satisfied, right? Well, the fantasy can still be fun.

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Dr. Mark Griffiths is a Chartered Psychologist and Director of the International Gaming Research Unit in the Psychology Division at Nottingham Trent University (UK).

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