
The body slam heard around the world.

The body slam heard around the world.
But I understand the anger and the jubilation that at least one bully got a comeuppance. Like Heynes, I was an "easy target." I cried easily as a kid, which, of course, encouraged more abuse. I saw an interview with Heynes on Australian T.V. where he said that when he entered high school, he had eight friends who all "ditched" him. He was alone and being alone and being someone who wouldn't hit back meant he was a target.

I was an easy target.
Bullying is a widespread problem and the consequences ripple through our social relations in ways that aren't always recognized. Bullied kids sometimes turn violent themselves. Many of the school shootings have been perpetrated by kids who were bullied for most of their lives. Bullied kids sometimes become suicidal and many of them succeed and are no longer with us. This robs us of their potential and creates communities where loss fills lives instead of the joy of watching someone come of age. Bullied kids sometimes grow up to become embittered and violent. I have no doubt that many of the people serving time in jail have a bully or two in their backgrounds. In short, bullying costs us a lot, and in ways, not fully accounted.
In March the U.S. Senate introduced S. 506 and in April, the U.S. House of Representatives introduced H.R. 1648, both titled "Safe Schools Improvement Act of 2011" (SSIA). These two bills are practically identical. Both of these bills have been introduced before. Both of these bills are still in committee. Both of these bills call for schools that accept federal funding to track, create policy and show improvements in bullying that is "conduct based upon" a list of protected categories. Both of these bills should be applauded for including sexual orientation as one of these protected categories since there is no national law that offers that protection of civil rights.
It was the well-publicized rash of suicides among gay and lesbian teenagers in the past few years that raised awareness for this bill and both increased support and resistance to the bill. There is no doubt that school life for homosexuals can be unbearable. There is a systematic culture in most high schools that encourages and essentially condones this kind of bullying. School policies that do not allow same sex couples at proms and school officials who use inflammatory language about homosexuality make it okay to bully gays and lesbians. If SSIA were passed, it would shed light on these systemic elements that surely could lead to improvements.
If you read the social science and public health literature on school bullying, you will recognize that the writers of these two bills have clearly done their research. Much of the language in these bills are a good summary of what is known about the mechanisms, victims and costs of bullying. So, if these were well researched, then why do these bills have a glaring and unacceptable omission. While much of the research shows that fatter kids are overwhelmingly over-represented as victims of bullying, height and weight are not a protected category. The $64,000 question is why?

Bullying is not a good motivator
Cruise any website that discusses weight and you will find a number of people who believe that telling a fat person they are less than human will encourage them to lose weight. People have said similar things in the comments for this blog. Stigma of fatness is not seen as a precursor to hate or bullying, but rather a duty on the part of authorities in order to correct what is obviously bad behavior. It is a cultural norm to believe that fat people are 100% responsible for their body shape and that they need to be motivated to change. Harassment is often seen as a motivation.
So given that the adults feel this way, is it any wonder that according to a study published in Pediatrics, June 2010, a fat kid is 63% more likely than the average to be bullied? The same mechanisms that created an atmosphere of acceptance for harassment of gay and lesbian teenagers, exists for fat kids. The same kinds of stigma exist. The same debate about choice versus biology exists. And the same kinds of damage to kids are being done.
How to handle difficult people.