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Should You Leave the Nest?

Questions to help you decide whether you should live with parents or on your own. Read More

Some more questions... help you decide:

Your relationships with your parents/siblings: Would you describe them as cordial, civil, distant, estranged, strained or even hostile? Would moving out make your relationships better or worse, or would it make no difference?

Time: How long do you plan on staying at home? Do you plan to move out once you finish school, find a job/different job, meet someone, get engaged/married, save $XXX amount of money, pay off yout student loans, decide you want to leave town/your state/the country? Do you see your self leaving in the next year, or 5-10 years from now?

Your short-term and long-term goals: Are you trying to get back on your feet after a job loss/divorce/bankruptcy/illness/death in the family? Are you saving up for a down payment on a house/car? Are you working on a degree, certification or career training? Are you looking for the right job/career/living space/life partner?

Your parents' physical and emotional health: Are your folks in decent health? Do they need some assistance in some areas? If so, how much? Would you be doing any caretaking duties? How much longer would they reasonably be expected be healthy/alive?

Your physical and emotional health: Are you dealing with a physical or emotional health issue now? Would moving out make it easier or harder to manage it, or would it make no difference?

Your contributions: What would you contribute? Would you pay rent? Would you do chores, and if so, what would those be? Would you contribute to any househould expenses, and if so, what would those be?

Thank you

Great comment!

20 years ago no one lived

20 years ago no one lived with their parents. We were expected yo make our own way.I don't understand why high school graduates want to stay home.


Ask yourself the following question: "If I were my parents, would I continue to prop up my child if he/she could stand on their own?" You will know what to do.

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Marty Nemko is a career and personal coach based in Oakland, Ca. and the author of 7 books. 

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