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Social Anxiety: Hiding In Plain Sight

Greg had been unable to come up with a good reason not to go, so he was stuck. Gritting his teeth, he promised himself he'd go, spend the shortest possible amount of time there, stand off in a corner hiding behind a drink, and take note of who else was there so he could report back to his roommate. Then, as soon as humanly possible, he'd sneak off to freedom. Read More

1.How does your social

1.How does your social anxiety affect you physically?
I have the range of physical affects except for blushing. I experienced that rarely and only in extreme anxiety situations like giving an oral report in school for example.

2.How often do you experience it, and under what circumstances?
It would be everyday I suppose if I didn't have such extreme avoidance coping measures.

3.What do you do to help yourself feel better? Does anything help?
The main strategy I've been able to use is avoidance. Unfortunately that's extremely unhealthy and has probably ruined my life if you judge it by what most people are able to do and accomplish. CBT is extremely helpful. Haven't had much luck with medications. Meditation is great. I think exposure therapy is probably the ultimate step, but very scary.

4.Does anything make it worse?
Pushing too hard to do things you just can't handle can be disastrous. Having irrational thoughts are not helpful either if your prone to those, which most people seem to be. Depression is a real hazard.

5.Have you ever talked with someone about it? If so, who and why. If not, why not?
Sure, I even went to a therapist for awhile. Maybe I will go again someday. The shame can make you want to keep it to yourself. I've been able to be more open with my close family members about my issues and this makes me feel less like a fraud if I had to pretend I was normal. Wouldn't be possible if I tried.

6.How long have you been hoping it would just go away?
All my life basically. But that's not the way things work and you grow out of that wishful thinking with age.

7.Do you really believe you will ever be able to get over it?
Not completely, but hope springs for at least a little bit of an improvement. It's important to be realistic, but not overly negative.

Suffering from anxiety is

Suffering from anxiety is like being aboard a sinking ship, if you aren't currently trying to scoop the water overboard, you are edging closer to drowning every moment. The water representing the overwhelming fear/anxiety, and the removal of such water representing exposing yourself to your fears.

The more you avoid, the worst it gets, the more you face your fears the better it gets, but it never really stops coming. At times you just become drained and exhausted from fighting anxiety and retreat to your "bunker", avoiding the rest of the world.

This is really a worthless

This is really a worthless article. Where is the hope, where is the help, for the person suffering from social anxiety disorder? Or are we just left suffering? And don't say, just get over it. Just face it. That doesn't work for someone truly suffering from SAD.

what happens when it is severe?

I would almost say this article only address mild to moderate social anxiety disorder. Sometimes the disorder is much worse. For example the Japanese use the term hikikomori to describe a literal pulling inward when social withdrawal is acute.

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Gregory L. Jantz, Ph.D., founded The Center for Counseling and Health Resources in Edmonds, Washington.


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