Hold Me Tight

How to feel truly loved by your partner via principles of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.
by Sue Johnson

Are Men & Women From Different Planets?

No - your partner is NOT an alien!! Yes, there are some real differences. Boys tend to be more active and physically aggressive, and girls are more verbal. But, these differences are small and tied to your experiences. Many women are quiet and shy, while some men are out there like Jay Leno! Mostly it is our rules and roles about how to be a guy or a girl that amplifies these differences. Read More

Can Love Last a Lifetime?

Can romantic love last or, by its very nature, does it have a best before date? One writer recently suggested that love is only "designed" to last for about four years, or until the offspring of a romance can survive without two guardian parents. Other research has suggested that love inevitably fades after about 15 months. Read More

Suppressing/Expressing Emotions

Research has shown that suppressing your emotions pretty well shuts down communication within that relationship. Let's chat about what the findings from one study might mean for your relationship. James Gross, a scientist who studies emotion, found that when we try to suppress emotion, this is what happens: Read More

Monogamy: are we - can we be - monogamous?

When I ask this question, people look at me with surprise and answer derisively. My friend mutters, "It's about time we gave up on that one! It's a myth." A colleague from Europe tells me, "Oh, no-one is getting married these days. They are just so discouraged. What is the point? Read More

The Very Best Investment

What does the fact that the stock market has fallen mean for families, for couple relationships? Read More

Fighting Fair - Who Can Do It?

As a relationship expert, I am often asked questions by the media about couples fighting. I guess fights are the times when our relationships with those we love come into sharp focus and hit us right between the eyes, so to speak. They are not fun! And lots of couples seek help simply to stop escalating the arguments. Read More

Sue Johnson

Sue Johnson is Director of the Ottawa (Canada) Couple and Family Institute and the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy. Her latest book is Hold Me Tight.

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About Hold Me Tight

My blogs are about the new science of love and bonding and how this science can help us shape our most important relationships. Examples are offered from couples experiences in Emotionally Focused Therapy, the powerful intervention that I have tested and refined over the last 20 years. I also discuss questions such as, "Are we momogamous? Can love last a lifetime?" and "Are men and women really so different?" Topics like the chemistry of love and healing from infidelity are also addressed.Sue

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Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love