"Remarriage is the triumph of hope over experience." - Samuel Johnson
Taking that plunge (again) can be nerve-wracking, especially if you had an especially difficult divorce. Here are some factors that help increase your changes of a successful marriage the second time around.
A study by Falke et al. (2007) reviewed literature from 1980 through 2007 regarding predictors of remarriage success. Here's what they found:
Higher-quality remarriages had the following factors:
- Couple consensus on important topics
- Social support from family and friends
- Financial stability
Lower-quality remarriages had the following factors:
- Stepfamily complexity
- Emotional attachment to an ex-spouse
- Serial marriage
- Economic strain
I'll address the issue of "stepfamily complexity". Stepfamilies always originate from a loss. Either the biological parents divorced, or one of the parents died. Either way, there is a period of grieving for everyone. Many children wish that their biological parents would reunite (no matter how unrealistic that may be), and having a parent remarry is the ultimate denial of that dream.