Some say men do the most bullying; others say women do the most bullying. Men bullies tend to bully other men slightly more than they bully other women; women bullies tend to bully other women much more than they bully men, according to the Workplace Bullying Institute’s survey. Our focus is how to talk with men. However, some of our recommendations also apply to female bullies.
This same 2007 survey found that 37 percent of the approximately 7,700 workers said they were recipients of bully behaviors. This survey found that almost three-fourths of the bullies were at a higher level than the recipient. The bully could be the recipient’s supervisor, the group coordinator, the team leader, or a similar position.
Bullies tend to look for someone they think is vulnerable in some way or someone they think may not complain or stand up to them. If you are a new employee or have been newly promoted, a bully may think you are a threat or see you as competition. As with sexual harassers, bullies come in all sizes. There’s no way to predict who will be a bully.