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Cybersex

Cybersex has become an addiction for some.

With more than a billion people on line these days, it is not surprising that cybersex has become an addiction for some. Cybersex addiction may not fulfill physiologic definitions of addictions. But, make no mistake about it, it can create havoc in your life.

Potential areas of harm include: personal neglect, compulsive preoccupation with checking and clicking, depression, and marital discord. People who seek sex on the net often have real encounters. These individuals may be at greater risk for sexually transmitted diseases. A published paper in JAMA highlighted this concern noting that online seekers were more likely to have had a previous STD than offline clients. "The internet clearly has a role in solicitation of risky sex partners". Clickers need to beware.

Clues that one may have a problem with cybersex addiction include, routinely spending significant amounts of time in chat rooms with the sole purpose of finding cybersex, hiding on-line chatting from their significant other, feeling guilt or shame about online use , and masturbating while online.

It appears that men and women are using the Internet equally for "cybering". People engaging in cybersex have a tendency to underestimate the importance and effect on their lives. Marriage counselors are now recognizing the importance of including issues of cybersex during marriage counseling. One of the relevant issues being considered is, ‘does cybersex represent infidelity?'

If the cyber world is your reality, I strongly urge you to seek out professional guidance. As always I appreciate your comments.

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