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Threesomes Are Every Man's Fantasy

I am frequently asked to comment on sexual fantasies.

A Sexual Fantasy - Threesomes

As an expert in sexual medicine, I am occasionally asked to comment
not on performance issues but rather sexual fantasies. I actually
appeared on a comedic skit for The Daily Show, with the subject
being threesomes. Threesomes include the participation of three people
in a sexual encounter, most commonly, two women and one man, but any
combination is possible, including three adults of the same sex.

The most common are men seeking to fulfill some sexual fantasy,
especially with women who are willing to perform bisexual acts. Although less common, there are many women who are equally interested in
experiencing two men at the same time. The most common time for this
behavior is during the college years, when experimentation is more
socially acceptable. For men who have been married at an early age
and have gotten divorced, or have had limited experimentation, it's
an opportunity for them to rediscover their fantasies. I do believe
that sexual fantasies can be quite healthy in a relationship. However,
acting some of them out can be quite dangerous and detrimental to the
relationships. I do not have to emphasize the medical risks of
sexually transmitted diseases with unsafe sex practices.

Unfortunately, there are STDs which can be acquired despite the best
precaution. Acquiring herpes or HPV (the human papilloma virus)
during one of these sexual encounters would be unfortunate. I'll
explore the relationship aspect of threesomes. In general, one of
the partners, usually the male, is more enthusiastic than the other, and
some form of persuasion, or worse, coercion, is employed to convince
the other half. When love is involved in the relationship, it is not
uncommon for intense feelings of jealousy, betrayal, and anger to be
experienced by the coerced party. In addition, when bisexual acts
are expected, many individuals feel particularly vulnerable and upset.
The entire experience can become explosive, resulting in the
permanent breakup of the relationship.

Spicing up ones sex life can be done more safely by creating a fantasy threesome with your partner in the
bedroom. The risks are significantly less and the rewards probably much greater.

All that glitters is not gold.

Live stronger.

 

Steven Lamm M.D. is an expert in sexual health and author of the Hardness Factor.

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