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While interesting to consider (friends writing stories), what you are describing isn't strength finding by definition.
What you are requesting is performance feedback. Performance feedback can only be found in the form of an evaluation such as you describe.
Performance feedback is different from strengths.
Strengths are things that we do that energize us and that we feel good about. Strengths can only be found from within.
Please read Marcus Buckingham, STANDOUT, to understand this topic more thoroughly. Then come back and write another article as I would enjoy your thoughts after reading his work.
Thank you for the feedback. In response to your comments:
(1) What I described in the article is not performance feedback. Performance feedback is an evaluation of one's contribution to the organization, not an evaluation of one's capabilities and talents. For a thorough review, see the Kluger and DeNisi (1996, Psychological Bulletin) meta-analysis of the feedback literature, which is hyperlinked in the blog entry.
(2) Your definition of strengths doesn't match how the concept is understood in psychology. Something that "energizes us" and that "we feel good about" is an interest or passion, not a strength (see Gagne & Deci, 2005, Journal of Organizational Behavior; Vallerand, 2008, Canadian Psychology). It also doesn't align with commonsense usages of the term "strength". The Merriam-Webster dictionary, for example, defines a strength as a "capacity"-- in other words, a strength falls under abilities, not motivations.
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