Girl Gone Sane

How almost losing my mind changed my life.

Don't Futurize--It Spoils the Moment!

Wisdom From an Eight Year Old

My kids still amaze me with their depth of perception and uncanny ways of sharing insight into life's events.

When my kids were in elementary school I used to surprise them with little gifts every now and then. Although I told them it was because I was so proud of how well they were doing-it was really because I got such a kick out of seeing the joy and excitement in their beautiful eyes and faces. They never knew when I would surprise them, and I'd usually spring it on them in the car on the way home from school. They'd laugh and bounce in their seats the whole way home.

One day, I went to the mall while the boys were in school and decided to get them a couple of pet hermit crabs. The crabs were really cool with brightly painted shells, and they came with a cage and everything I'd need to give them a happy healthy life.

On this particular day, as I pulled up in the garage my kids had their seatbelts unbuckled and the car doors open before I even got the car turned off. They bolted in the house, ran into the living room, and saw their surprise. They couldn't believe it. Zachary hugged me and said, "Mom, how did you think of buying this? This is so great!" While Dominic jump up and down screaming I love it, I love it! It truly was love at first sight for both of them. They each claimed a crab, named it and then carried it around to show all their friends.

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A few hours later, Dominic climbed up on my lap and leaned into me and said, "Mom I had no idea yesterday that today would be the greatest day of my life." I sat there for a moment in awe of this very insightful statement and thought, Wow! Was that ever profound for an 8 year old! I looked at him and said, "Is there a wise old sage living inside of you?" He just laughed.

As I thought about what he said, I realized the depth of his words. For me it became very clear-don't futurize (I know futurize isn't a word but I like it)-live in the moment. We're not supposed to know the future because it keeps us from enjoying and appreciating the moments that come our way. If we're focused on what has yet to occur, then we're not focused on the beauty of now. And when we do futurize and expect things to happen a certain way, then we are limiting the joy and surprises that may come.

It's so easy to get caught up in the dramas that surround our lives and the dramas we think may come. I'm so grateful I've got Dominic's wise words to help pull me back to the present.

 

 



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Gretta Krane is a writer, columnist, and public speaker on the topic of trauma and recovery.

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