Getting Unstuck

How to Figure Out Where You Want to Be — And Get There.

The Accountability Piece

Looking for an external push to get stuff done?

If I had a dollar for every person who's ever said, "I just struggle with the Accountability Piece" - I'd have a very fat wallet.

And I have - shocking surprise - a very strong point of view on accountability.

[Settle in, why don't you?]

When we're very small children, we have no accountability, really.  Someone wakes us up, someone changes our diapers, or cleans up our messes.  Food appears, often on demand.  It's magic!

As we age, we get more and more independence, but often we initiate our actions based on the needs of others.  The research paper gets completed because the professor needs it.  The casserole is delivered to the sick neighbor because our name is on that list at church.  We go to the gym because we've hired a personal trainer. 

See?  We are trained to expect external push to our internal motivation.

Sometimes to the point that we don't even know if we actually have internal motivation.  We kinda lose it along the way.

So we hire accountability partners, thinking "now, I'll get stuff done."

And maybe you will.  Maybe.

But you most certainly will when you take that accountability piece internal and allow it to match your personal motivation.

Here's how you start.

Ask yourself:

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  1. Why do I want to do this thing?
  2. What's my life going to be like when it's completed?
  3. How cool is that going to be?
  4. When does this need to be done?
  5. Am I the right person to do this, or do I need help? 
  6. What are manageable steps I can take to get there?
  7. When do those steps need to be completed?
  8. What's a fantastic reward I can give myself after each step is done?
  9. What's the big honking reward I'll get when the whole deal is over?

Be accountable, most assuredly.  But be accountable to yourself for real, meaningful and steady progress.

That's all you need.

 



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Michele Woodward is the author of I Am Not Superwoman: Further Essays on Happier Living and Lose Weight, Find Love, De-Clutter & Save Money: Essays on Happier Living.

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