Gay's Anatomy

There are a lot of "men seeking men" postings that are posted on Craigslist by men who admit that they are married. It is sad but true and I pray that their wives find out about this before any of them are given any type of diseases. Not that you won't get it if they are just cheating around with other women, it's just that I think married men who are on the DL (down low) makes cheating even worse because it's a double deception.

While I was doing my own post, I couldn't help but be disturbed by reading yours, especially the part about suicide. Please, if nothing else, seek help on this issue.
I think, despite your heterosexual marriage, that if you are truly honest with yourself, you'll admit that you are homosexual. I hate to say this, but you need to admit it to your wife. This will result in one of two courses of action, either divorce or acceptance and a continuation of the marriage with your wife knowing that you will be going off with another man on occasion. You say you are Christian. Have you thought about talking to your pastor/priest about your situation?

I understand completely since I too have the same thoughts.

I too, have had the same desires and likes and dislikes as the gentleman who described his situation involving his marriage and his desires for other men, I am a single guy with a girl friend, who has tried for many years to lead a straight life, however, my desires for other guys is so strong , it haunts you like nothing you can ignor. Since my days in high school, I have had some desire for guys of the same sex, I was sent off to a boarding school back in the 70's, there were not dividers in the showers as there most likely is today, just 6 showers lined up where us boarders lined up at night to shower off, yes, I saw it all at a very young age, the big and the small, the different sizes and shapes of other guys private parts, the awesome looking bodies and the bodies that really needed a little extra work on them. I began to immagine what it would be like to have extra inches, just a little more,the buldges, I observed in the lunch line on a daily basis, it all began in highschool, just living with a room mate and living in close quarters with other guys my own age, and yes, we all knew it was wrong to be homosexual, back then, homosexuality was just purely wrong, but in the back of my mind, it actually facinated me, I live a good part of my adult life, before, I actually acted in such a way as to actually have intimate desires with another man, and yes, I have had gay sex with other men, not a lot, but some, was it a curiosity to find out what it would be like to touch another guy, I can't really answer that question, all , I can say is, that, I feel this natural feeling of being much more comfortable with guys, hanging out with the guys, it just seems to be more natural for me, yes, I tried women, I am not sure where I went wrong, or was it just that " Some guys have all the luck " women were hard for me to find and talk too, was my personality just not what women were looking for, I really do not know the answer to this question, other than I had my share of problems growing up and trying to deal with my sexuality, I had a very rough time in my twenties and thirties. when the internet came along, I was then able to talk to other men and actually became much more acceptable with who I really was, today, I feel I am bisexual, and yes, I do have this craving for hot guys, I know it is wrong, I know it is not accepted in the country, yet, it does exists and I believe it would be harder for me to break my deisre for other guys than it would be for an acholic to quit his or her addiction.
My last part of my acticle here is, yes, I consider myself bisexual and I do not feel bad about it today, my girl friend knows of my desires, she may not know it all, but she knows, I luv a hot guy, maybe it is that part of me, that , would like to be that "HOt Guy" whatever it is, what i do behind close doors is my business and no one elses, if it make me happy so be it, and to the gentleman who wrote the acticle about "Married men wanting other men" , yes, I know exactly what you are going through, you are not by yourself and I personally feel you should do what makes you feel good, life is too short worrying about what others think or what is right or wrong, God made us, all for a reason and when he made me , he gave me the opportunity to meet men and women, I feel he would not have given me that opportunity to have the desires that I have about men, if he were not in charge,so, to all of you, make your life what you can of it, tommorrow may be your last day, have a nice one....

Dear married str8 man,

I read your dilema wtih eager heart. I feel bad for you to feel so tormented internally. I personally feel that one should be able to do what makes one happy without feeling cornered by societal values. Nobody can understand your feelings except you. Then why should others be the judge for what is right and wrong.

I am going through my own challenges of finding a man for myself. Although I identify as gay, but I have always been attracted to str8 males. There is such a quality to them which gay guys don't have. As a result, I have hardly dated any gay men.

I wish I can find that "marriage of convenience" with a str8 male where we provide each other for what we don't get anywhere else.

I know exactly what you are talking about. Several months ago my wife and I decided to move back to our home state to be with her kids, one of which had just gotten pregnant. I stayed behind though because of certain issues that I had take care of before I moved across the country. We talked every day and even shared pictures and had webcam sex, but it really didn't satisfy me. I couldn't have sex with another woman because I would feel incredible guilt, but then I started noticing more about men when I would watch porn. I talked to her about it and she told me it was fine to experiment. Soon though I was beginning to enjoy it more than I thought I would, especially because she would masturbate when I told her what happened. Because I coulnd't have a woman I was wanting sex with a man all the time. I ended up spending almost two months apart from her and during that time I had sex daily with different men every time. Like yourself, I would picture myself having sex with a tight woman and being sucked on by a woman. But then I started letting other men fuck me instead of just me just doing it. After I got back to her I found myself completely not wanting a man at all. I wondered why so we went to a counselor just to ask and found it might have simply been a sexual addiction for a short time due to the lack of a woman being next to me after having her there every night for almost 9 years. I don't have any regrets, except for the fact that I risked receiving STDs in a big way, but it is a strange time to look back on.

Interesting. I'm curious. Not to sound condescending, but why do you prefer a b.j. from a guy as apposed to say a flesh-light or something like that? Is a real mouth better and easier to access if it's a man's?