Gay's Anatomy

An insider's look at gay culture and identity.

by Joe Kort

Joe Kort, LMSW, is a psychotherapist and author of books on gay male development, gay male couples including Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician:The Essential Guide. He is a gay and lesbian studies adjunct professor at Wayne State University.

October 6, 2008, Gender

Comments on "The Heterosexual Questionnaire"

The Heterosexual Questionnaire

By Joe Kort on October 6, 2008 in Gay's Anatomy

Heterosexism is the belief that everyone is, or should be, heterosexual. It is the belief that rights and privileges should only go to heterosexuals and that any other sexual or romantic orientation either doesn't exist and/or is inferior to heterosexuality. Read More

Great stuff, Joe!

Submitted by Joe Perez on October 7, 2008 - 11:06am.

How about this one:

21. Since heterosexuals are so susceptible to sexually trasnmitted diseases, isn't this evidence that heterosexuality is unnatural?

Um, think of the animals

Submitted by Scott Cutler on October 9, 2008 - 5:53pm.

Consider what would happen if birds decided they no longer wanted to mate with the opposite gender in order to produce life. Would not humans intervene to preserve the life of that beautiful animal?

Why would we allow the same onset of extinction in our own species?

Of course, that's just the common sense scientific view. In God's view, he wants us to be happy. One of the greatest sources of happiness for the whole of humanity is child-bearing and rearing. The family is the fundamental unit of society, including partners with their own biological offspring. Simply put, heterosexuality allows for the continuation of life; homosexuality is a step towards extinction.

I hope this comment is

Submitted by E.C. on October 11, 2008 - 10:32pm.

I hope this comment is sarcastic/ironic, in light of the amusing and very tongue-in-cheek nature of the post?

People who claim to know what is on God's mind, or what God intends don't really impress me. How can you presume to know that? This is an old, tired line of argument you are making, based on so much false logic, but in case you really haven't ever thought about it, you should consider that infertile heterosexual couples are out there, as are plenty of heterosexual couples who just don't want children.. so are you saying God is punishing them? And more importantly, you do realize that there are lots of homosexual couples with children out there, right? Really happy, normal, healthy, well-cared for children. So there is absolutely no mutual exclusion of homosexuality and child-rearing.

Families are great, and families are important, but not every single person on the planet needs to physically produce offspring in order to be a part of humanity, or to make a worthwhile contribution. Also, not to shatter your worldview, but we aren't going to become extinct any time soon because of too few people... but you know, if you really want to consider things through a 'why God works in this way' perspective: thanks to technology (arguably, along with any other human achievement, a gift of God), we can easily reproduce without intercourse. So, any children my partner and I might decide to give birth to would essentially be free of 'original sin'. Interesting-- and yet somehow I don't think anyone is going to be promoting this in such a way anytime soon. Sadly, people who speak in terms of 'what God wants/doesn't want' tend to interpret everything to fit their own perspective.

Homesexuality is a step

Submitted by Anonymous on December 5, 2008 - 1:50pm.

Homesexuality is a step towards extinction!! Goodness! that is a rather ill informed statement with no semblance to common sense.

Your god saying he wants the human race to procreate might of been more valid when the majority of the planet's population died before the age of 30.

Mother earth would prefer us to slow down on the baby making.

Btw Scott, you may wish to

Submitted by Anonymous on October 1, 2009 - 6:27pm.

Btw Scott, you may wish to check your scientific facts - homosexuality and bisexuality exists among non-extinct animals too. A simple Google search would throw up examples.

Also, God does not usually feature in the 'common sense scientific view'.

Cuestionario para

Submitted by Marvin Schult on February 23, 2009 - 8:11pm.

Cuestionario para heterosexuales
Por Joe Kort

El siguiente es un cuestionario irónico diseñado para ilustrar el heterosexismo implícito, en las mismas preguntas, cuando se dirigen a gays y lesbianas.

Heterosexismo es la creencia de que todo el mundo es, o debería de ser, heterosexual. Es la creencia de que los derechos y privilegios deben ir dirigidos solamente a los heterosexuales y que cualquier otra orientación sexual o romántica no existe y/o es inferior a la heterosexualidad.
Los gays y lesbianas sienten estas preguntas en el mismo modo que lo haría un heterosexual. Cuando la gente dice que ser gay es un estilo de forma “alternativo”, siempre les digo que, para mí, el ser heterosexual es un estilo de vida alternativo.

Gloria Steinem describió la crueldad del sexismo cuando planteó la pregunta, “Que pasaría si le hiciéramos a los hombres lo que le es hecho a las mujeres?” Menciona que si a los hombres se les diera trabajos peor pagados que los de las mujeres, si se les disminuyera sus oportunidades de subir de puesto y si tuvieran que soportar otras formas de sexismo, estarían consternados y todo el mundo vería la barbarie de lo que le es hecho a las mujeres.

Imaginar preguntas heterosexistas dirigidas a heterosexuales pone en claro la crueldad hacia los gays y lesbianas.

Cuestionario para heterosexuales
Preguntas para Heterosexuales (por Martin Rochlin, Ph.D., 1977)

1. ¿Qué cree usted que causó su heterosexualidad?
2. ¿Cuándo y cómo decidió inicialmente que era heterosexual?
3. ¿Es posible que su heterosexualidad sea solamente una fase que vaya a superar?
4. ¿Es posible que su heterosexualidad surja de un miedo neurótico hacia los de su mismo sexo?
5. ¿No es posible que lo único que necesite sea un buen amante gay o lesbiana?
6. Los heterosexuales tienen historias de fracasos en relaciones gay. ¿Cree que se haya hecho heterosexual por miedo a ser rechazado?
7. Si nunca se ha acostado con una persona de su mismo sexo, ¿cómo sabe que no le gustaría?
8. Si la heterosexualidad es normal, ¿por qué hay un número desproporcionado de pacientes psiquiátricos heterosexuales?
9. ¿A quién le ha revelado sus tendencias heterosexuales? ¿Cómo reaccionaron?
10. Su heterosexualidad no me ofende mientras no la trate de forzar en mí. ¿Por qué se sienten obligados a atraer a otros a su conducta heterosexual?
11. Si escogiera criar niños, ¿querría que fueran heterosexuales, sabiendo todos los problemas que enfrentarán?
12. La gran mayoría de abusadores de niños son heterosexuales. ¿De verdad considera seguro exponer a sus hijos a maestros heterosexuales?
13. ¿Por qué insiste en hacer alarde de su heterosexualidad? ¿Por qué no puede ser lo que es y mantenerlo privado?
14. ¿Cómo espera convertirse en una persona íntegra si solamente se limita a su heterosexualidad compulsiva y exclusiva y no desarrolla su potencial homosexual, saludable y natural, normal y dado por Dios?
15. Los heterosexuales se distinguen por asignarse a otros y a sí mismos roles sexuales limitados y restringidos. ¿Por qué se aferran a roles tan enfermizos?
16. ¿Por qué los heterosexuales le dan tanto énfasis al sexo?
17. Con todo el apoyo social que recibe el matrimonio, el número de divorcios va en aumento. ¿Por qué hay tan pocas relaciones heterosexuales estables?
18. ¿Cómo sobrevivirá la raza humana si todo el mundo fuera heterosexual, considerando la amenaza de sobrepoblación?
19. Parece haber pocos heterosexuales felices. Se han desarrollado técnicas con las cuales usted podría cambiar si quisiera. Ha considerado la Terapia de Aversion?
20. ¿Los heterosexuales odian o desconfían de otras personas de su mismo sexo? ¿Es eso lo que los hace heterosexuales?
Published on Psychology Today Blogs (http://blogs.psychologytoday.com)
Traducción de Carlos Alvarez. (Universiteit van Amsterdam)
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Re- um think of the animals

Submitted by Anonymous on July 4, 2009 - 12:46pm.

If you really thought of the animals you would realize that the over population of humans is wiping them out one by one. Oops, I mean ten by ten. The world doesn't grow. The human population is continually growing. This earth cannot sustain unlimited numbers of people on this planet. Humans are responsible for the extinction of the animal kingdom, the forests and the global warming. It is not a homosexual threat it is heterosexual.
I mean heterosexuals are great and all and we need them but any gay and lesbian could easily have children just by masturbating and inserting in to the woman just before climax. It doesn't take a hetero to make the ball roll. Nice gesture, but its just self greatness and prejudice ,nothing else.
The gay and lesbian population is very low. It is not learned it is just who they are just like all the heterosexuals. Give me a break man.