Fulfillment at Any Age

How to remain productive and healthy into your later years

Do You Have a Workplace Spouse?

The workplace romance, if you believe the polls, is becoming increasingly commonplace. Recent research shows the advantages but, more often, the disadvantages to your work of blending love and work. Having a work spouse may help you get through the day, but what matters the most will be the person you return to at night. Read More

Working it at work

Having an affair at the office is something that either works very, very well or very, very badly - there is no middle ground in my opinion. I've written about this too: http://yinology.org/working-work/

I think the author is making

I think the author is making a distinction between a workplace spouse and having an affair. Though of course it depends on what people think about it. Some people would consider it an affair if their spouse had a workplace spouse. Others don't.

I've had workplaces spouses my whole career, and my wife has become friends with all of them. Nothing has ever been a secret. Turns out that every woman I have come to like as a friend also fits the personality that my wife would also be good friends with. To me a workplace spouse is just someone who has your back, can provide a balance to see things from the opposite-gender view, a little more trust than most people at work, and kind of fills the shoes of your home spouse in a communicative way -- and nothing more especially if we each have good marriages at home. I'm fully aware of the fact that some spouses would consider this an outright affair. But my wife and I don't see it that way.

I'm really disappointed in

I'm really disappointed in the heterosexist subtitle of this article.

Don't be so literal

Read for intent. It seems clear the author intended to emphasize that she's talking about relationships in which an erotic/romantic aspect has potential. I sometimes think the language becomes reduced to a politically correct blandness if one tries to carefully word it so that it logically includes all possible combinations of sexual orientations. For example, how should the author word it so as not to make asexual people feel left out?

Post new comment

The content of this field is kept private and will not be shown publicly.
  • Web page addresses and e-mail addresses turn into links automatically.
  • Allowed HTML tags: <a> <em> <strong> <cite> <code> <ul> <ol> <li> <dl> <dt> <dd>
  • Lines and paragraphs break automatically.
  • You may quote other posts using [quote] tags.

More information about formatting options

Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., is a Professor of Psychology at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. Her latest book is The Search for Fulfillment.


Subscribe to Fulfillment at Any Age

Current Issue

Let It Go!

It can take a radical reboot to get past old hurts and injustices.