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Your Body on Display: Social Media and Your Self-Image

Social media sites present you with countless opportunities to present, and describe, your body to everyone from your closest friends to the relationship partners you hope to have someday. By putting yourself on display for all to judge, including yourself, you may be raising your bodily self-consciousness to unhealthy levels. Read More

Objectification

One of the implications of this post seems to be that we should be more attentive to objectification of women because "the probability is far higher that women are more affected than men". First of all, "far higher" is vague. Secondly, I'm skeptical about how the impact was measured and quantified. Third, it's my opinion that we'll never be able to effectively reduce objectification until we (at least) recognize that at its core, objectification is a genderless issue. It's not just about sexual appeal either. As long as men are objectified, women will be as well; impact be damned.

What if i told you that not

What if i told you that not only women do that. There's a lot of men out there who does the same thing.

you'll never change this

Hi Susan,
I see that it bothers you that women enjoy being attractive. You wish we didn't derive pleasure and satisfaction from this, and would prefer that we have different values.

The problem is that sexuality is a biological drive. It is present in all mammals, including humans. Both men and women will ALWAYS care about attracting sexual attention from potential partners. This isn't created by some media conspiracy to promote so-called objectification. It's an innate drive common to all species that engage in sexual reproduction.

Shaming women (and men) for their sexuality is a losing battle.

The problem here my friend is

The problem here my friend is the result of this sexual objectification. Life is not always caring about how you will attract opposite sex through sexual attention. The innate drive presented to us by science "unconciously" resulted to abortion, broken families, adultery and other IMMORAL effects overtime...

Like I care

I'm going to go post some selfies on my Facebook page so I can agitate Susan Krauss Whitbourne. Oh, and I'm female, so that should make the matter far worse.

horrors!

Oh, no, Anonymous! Don't self-objectify yourself! (just kidding)

I think I'll go post a few selfies of my own.

the woman who who went on and

the woman who who went on and on in an old blog about 'height' of men being of supreme importance to her and most women is whining about the objectificateion of women?...hilarious!

The author doesn't

The author doesn't acknowledge the ways men are objectified. For instance, she leaves out any discussion of men being treated as success objects. (Warren Farrell raised the topic many years ago.)

Even if you accept her narrow definition of objectification--as based only on physical traits-- you have to wonder why she doesn't mention women's focus on men's height, muscles, etc. What a one-sided article!

objectification

Technically speaking, it shouldn't say "*the* problem with objectification of women occurs when they start to think of themselves as nothing more than sex objects" but rather "*a* problem...", because objectification of women is a problem even if the women have *great* self-esteem.

What's wrong with this picture?

It's hard to take this article seriously when its accompanying thumbnail is an example of the very thing the article is trying to disparage.

From your photo, you're one

From your photo, you're one foxy babe Dr. K-W :-)

It's posts like these that give white women a complex

One notices that on Facebook white women can't seem to take a clear picture of themselves for their profile picture. You get white women with baby, white women with husband and white woman surrounded by her white friends. But it is pretty clear that white women can't seem to take a good clear picture of themselves alone. It's probably because they are terrified of being objectified, or blamed for being objectified. Black women don't have a problem posting clear picture of themselves, because they don't let themselves be bullied by ridiculous assumptions by these so-called experts.

racist much?

racist much?

wow

I'm a man. I wish women would treat me and think of me solely as an object of their pleasure...it's a dream
But women complain? Come on...just more of this female victim nonsense..they'sll say ANYTHING to feel sorry for themselves and get some ill-deserved, unjustified pity!

you've got to translate it

"I wish women would treat me and think of me solely as an object of their pleasure...it's a dream"

Yes, it is a dream. And most women, if they're being honest, love being thought of as sexually desirable, too. In fact, the women who are most likely to complain about so-called objectification are the ones who feel like they're not getting enough of it. Just notice the examples they give -- beautiful, scantily clad women on commercials and music videos, young pretty women who take and post pictures of themselves. They whine about those women 'self-objectifying.'

Google translate needs a feminism-to-English option, so we can see that "Look at that poor oppressed girl self-objectifying herself!" really means "Why isn't anyone paying attention to meeeee?!"

There's a difference between

There's a difference between wanting to be "sexually desirable" and self-objectification. There's nothing wrong with wanting to appear attractive or to be sexually desirable, but there IS something wrong when you place your physical image above all other traits. Regardless of gender, physical beauty is only temporary. If you base your self-worth on physical appearance, that implies that your self-worth goes down the drain once you no longer fit society's image of what's attractive. That's a person who self-objectifies. If you're basing your self-worth on the amount of likes and comments from people who don't give a shit about you on your photos, then chances are you're self-objectifying. Chances are that you'll also start feeling insecure and shitty when those likes and comments start dwindling.

A person who wants to be sexually desirable but still recognizes his/her own humanity, accomplishments, abilities, etc.? This person is more likely to maintain his/her self-worth through old age. This person can admit to feeling flattered by the likes and comments on his/her photos, but this person also doesn't need a ton of attention from strangers to feel beautiful or confident. This person has a shit ton of other things besides appearances to feel good about. This person recognizes that once his/her physical attractiveness fades, he/she will still have goals to work on and proud accomplishments to look back on.

we crave honesty which is hard to find

Another compelling reason why so many women put their body on display and not only through photos on social media but also by posting erotic videos of themselves on youtube and other video channels is because they want honest opinion about how they look. It's not that easy to find, considering that most of the people we know would not provide us with objective opinion and will just tell us what we want to hear or will soften any kind honesty they are capable of delivering in order not to offend us.

it's not just women

I feel that the author of this has written this from only one point of view. Men are also objectified and seen as sex symbols as well. I also do not feel that men have been conditioned to objectify women. Body image and social media affects everyone and I think this topic needs to be looked into more so as to help people actually deal with the problem.

sex sells

Hey, why is no one paying attention to me, am I not worthy? Let me take a selfie showing some tits and upload it on my facebook page. 200 Likes, yeah, I feel better, for now.

Objectification

In my opinion the article puts objectification (or precisely being happy that I look well) on the wrong side and non-objectification on the other. I think that instead of this there must be a reasonable line. If a woman is happy that she is pretty and she is well dressed, it' okey. I mean it's okey even if men appreciate her look and don't know anything about her character (because for this women is still comfortable to hear compliments). Posting erotic videos on internet are out of the zone, the same applies for verbal attacks and eating disorders imposed by a family, media or whatever.

I agree on this article. The

I agree on this article. The results are very evident...

everybody is objecitvied everywhere, especially online

to understand what I mean just look at the personalized ads beside that artikel

I stopped online dating because I felt being objectivied by women

online daters are objectivied to a match percentage

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Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., is a Professor of Psychology at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. Her latest book is The Search for Fulfillment.

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