Fulfillment at Any Age

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9 Ways to Ask For (and Get) What You Want

Do you have trouble asking for the things you want? Many people are intimidated by the prospect of stating their needs to others, especially in the notoriously sensitive areas such as money, sex, and interpersonal relationships. This 9-step guide will give you some psychology-tested solutions to these common challenges. Read More

Four more points

I would add (somewhat redundantly): Stay calm and rational; Acknowledge the other party's power to nix the request; Actually make a reasonable request(Too many women think that the other party can read their mind and expect their wishes to be magically fulfilled); and Ask for a specific completion time.

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Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., is a Professor of Psychology at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. Her latest book is The Search for Fulfillment.


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