Fulfillment at Any Age

I always enjoy hearing people's deepest secrets. It makes me feel closer to them, even if I don't know them well. And I also feel comfortable telling anyone my "secrets". I never understood why someone would want to hide their selves from others.

I've never thought about sharing secrets with someone you just met because they might know someone you know, it makes sense though. I've always reasoned that it's ok because I probably will never see them again. However, sometimes I feel that these strangers will give me an unbiased opinion about an issue. Perhaps I need to find more confidants that I can share my feelings about on a regular basis?

I'm reluctant to share intimate secrets with strangers, mainly out of a (possibly misplaced) sense of courtesy. I don't know where their boundaries are, and I don't want to accidentally overstep them.

I know I can safely discuss "certain things" with certain friends but not with others. It doesn't mean we're not close friends, it just means they aren't comfortable talking about "certain things", and I respect that. As an introvert, it takes me awhile to figure out where those boundaries are. Until I get to know someone very well, I just don't want to take the chance of stepping on their toes.

Imagine my confusion when I'm labelled unfeeling, insensitive and aloof.

That focusing on the other person and not talking excessively about myself gets the other person to open up.

I ask a lot of open ended questions, questions that cannot be answered with a simple YES or NO.

Then listen intently and carefully to what they say and ask more follow on questions.

This does take a lot of energy (for me anyway), to really listen to what the person is telling you, but I find this tactic to work very well in most situations.

Sharing a secret or two with a stranger is a great way to get the conversation going.

i agree wid d ten tips to talk about anytning with anyone.we shud nt share our secrets wid strangers coz v never know wat opinion they make about us.