Freedom to Grieve

Protecting grief from "closure," consumerism, politics, and other cultural distortions

by Nancy Berns, Ph.D.

Can Revenge on Your Ex Bring Closure?

By Nancy Berns, Ph.D. on December 5, 2011 in Freedom to Grieve

The end of a relationship is a common loss and may bring pain, anger, humiliation, abandonment, and grief. Some businesses sell products, such as divorce cakes, dead fish, the Ex Voodoo Doll, and Bury the Jerk kits. But does seeking revenge help or hurt our healing process? Read More

Can revenge bring closure?

Submitted by Kelly Cash on December 5, 2011 - 9:55am.

YES!

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No, revenge doesn't help, it

Submitted by Anonymous on December 5, 2011 - 4:43pm.

No, revenge doesn't help, it keeps the wounds open and allow for negative feelings to fester like an infection. Causing the bearer, to relive, the pain every time they initiate revenge or negative thinking. Revenge is for the truly weak, negative and miserable.

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YES! Revenge does help!

Submitted by Kelly Cash on December 5, 2011 - 5:55pm.

It comes in many different flavors. My favorite:

Talmud: "Live well. It is the best revenge."

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Nancy Berns, Ph.D., is an Associate Professor of Sociology at Drake University and the author of Closure: The Rush to End Grief and What It Costs Us.

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