Step one: Love yourself.
Step two: Refer to step one.
I used to hate it when I heard people expound on that old adage: you can’t love someone until you learn to love yourself. What exactly does that mean? How do you consciously love yourself? Sure, I can sit in front of the mirror and blow kisses. I can put my arms around myself and squeeze.
I’ve tried it. I don’t think it works.
So how about this little twist on that old adage? No one is going to love you more than you love yourself. I started thinking about the men I’ve dated, many of whom left much to be desired on the whole “love-giving” front. So maybe I do need figure out how to love myself more.
The research has begun. Here’s what I’ve come up with.
• Watch Your Thoughts Ever notice your crazy thoughts? Try keeping a list throughout the day of every negative thought you have about yourself. My list was a mile long when I started this daily exercise; it usually included thoughts about my bum being three sizes too big. Actually, that one may be true. But really, monitor your thoughts. They run a direct line from your brain to behavior.