Finally Out

Letting go of living straight, at mid-life.

by Loren A. Olson, M.D., D.L.F.A.P.A.

Door Knob Revelations

As therapists, we've all learned that our patients reveal their most painful conflicts during the last thirty seconds of a session, just when they are ready to leave the office. Often they already have their hand on the door knob. Recently I experienced this rather dramatically as I terminated with a woman I had seen for about 25 years. Read More

Gaps in LGBT Research and Health Care

As a group LGBT people are subjected to prejudice and discrimination in health care. "LGBT" is an umbrella term. The "L," the "G," the "B" and the "T" all represent distinct populations. Each population and subpopulation has its own separate needs and its own distinct health care requirements. Combining these populations obscures differences among them. Read More

The Messy Realities of Bisexuality

Some men who call themselves bisexual experience considerable dissonance; their sexual attractions, behaviors and identity are not in alignment. Read More

Betrayal and Emotional Infidelity

When one partner has been betrayed, they usually ask their spouse the wrong question: "Did you have sex with that person?" Emotional infidelity is far more damaging to a relationship than sexual infidelity. Open gay relationships can work, providing there are rules and the rules are followed. Lies are the ultimate betrayal in a relationship. Read More

My husband is having an affair. . . with a man

A straight couple's world turns upside down after infidelity with gay partner. Read More

Too Old for Sex?

"Why come out at forty? You're too old for sex," so said a young twenty-something. This thinking is wrong on three counts: 1. Forty is the infancy of old age2. Men and women have sex well into late life3. Read More

Loren A. Olson, M.D., D.L.F.A.P.A., is Certified by the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology and is a Distinguished Life Fellow of the APA.

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About Finally Out

"[Dr. Olson’s] journey from heterosexual marriage to living as an openly out gay man to marrying his boyfriend is a captivating tale rife with abundant introspection and analysis.” -- Elizabeth Mallard