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The Height of Success

Standards for success. Finding a way to measure myself that makes me a winner. Read More

Your ideas of success are too small

You hang all your definitionsbof success on external results. Whether you make so much money, have x many noble children, have a house in x county which cost x many millions. And if you achieve all of these, you're off the hook, free to live a lazy life!
Why not live a life of intentions? Which you'll never "finish" but can progress through the finite but continuous road that is your life?
Try these—they're far more challenging than achieving wealth or lasting fame...
* Maintain an intention to have compassion for yourself and others, no matter how often failure occurs
* Maintain an intention to never think of yourself as a "master" at anything.
* Never give up on life.
* Maintain the intention to be a friend, regardless of whether anyone is a friend to you. Same goes for love.

If you start on any of these paths, you will never finish. But patient, forgiving, and imperfect effort will yield great success.

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Fredric Neuman, M.D. is the Director of the Anxiety and Phobia Center at White Plains Hospital.


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