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An Appreciation of Romantic Love

I can too write about love in a romantic way. Read More

I don't believe there is a

I don't believe there is a thing called "real love".

The concept of limerence provides a much better explanation of our feelings of "love".

Especially, love at first sight. People don't want to believe that what they are feeling is a combination of social needs and brain chemicals.

Our brains are programmed to do whatever it takes to mate with the best mate possible and then stick around long enough to give the spawn a fighting chance.

I still get afflicted with feelings of "love" now and then, but recognizing that its just biochemical helps me cope with the pain.

I wish there was a fall-out-of-love drug, it would be a great gift to mankind.

I think its safe to say that romantic love cause more psychological damage than many other forms of trauma.


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Fredric Neuman, M.D. is the Director of the Anxiety and Phobia Center at White Plains Hospital.


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