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If you feel like complaining about something, think it over first, because it's actually not worth it...
If you feel like complaining about something, think it over first, because it's actually not worth it...
It’s easy for us to complain about who we aren’t, what we don’t have, what we can´t do, what we didn´t get out of life; the list goes on. These feelings can be very real and are ingrained in us; however, this is the time to question the actual importance of the many things that we wish for in life.
If you feel that you can realistically do without what you are wishing for, you have the ability to inherently put that need aside and go on with your life. Conversely, if that something is really important to you, then it’s time you turn your thoughts into actions and achieve your goals without those nettlesome complaints.
Complaints consume energy, which is the same energy that could be exerted in effectuating your desires. Whether it is a change in personality or new accomplishments in your life, you need that energy to get what you want. Thus, what is ultimately needed is a change in attitude.
When you start having the urge to complain, you forget about how blessed you might actually be in that moment. Keep in mind; by no means am I saying that you should settle for what you have. Settling for less than you deserve is the first step towards mediocrity, and even death! Rather, I encourage you to see the glass half-full, and switch gears from focusing on what you don’t have to recognizing and appreciating the blessings that you do have. Regardless of what spiritual or religious entity you believe in, use that as a guide to help you create a more positive and grateful attitude to successfully navigate your life.
Moping about not winning over the love of your life, or being unable to have the family you’ve always wanted will keep you trapped in the corner of resentment. Once you enter this corner, it’s hard to leave. Your thoughts are wired in the wrong direction, leading you to question what you did wrong to deserve the situation you are in and endlessly search for answers, keeping you powerless in that corner.
Similarly, if you complain about not landing your dream job or being unable to afford the house you wanted (basically anything material), it’s easy to compare yourself to others who have all of those things and become even more discouraged, especially when you‘ve taken the same steps as they have or maybe even done more than they did to reach those goals. In turn, this is perceived as failure and you end up believing that nothing is worthwhile.
At this point, you’re probably wondering how it’s even possible to change your attitude in a hopeless moment when negativity is imminent and you are without motivation. Moreover, how can you even conceive the idea of being thankful when you are living a tragedy? And what does it ultimately take to recognize gratitude?
If you feel aimless, ask yourself what it means to feel full. It is important to be aware of not only what you complain about, but also what exactly it is that you want. Even when you are in a painful situation, pain teaches us to live. At some point you may look back and objectively remember the nightmare you lived and reflect on what it has taught you. Life’s struggles are learning opportunities in disguise, and should not be misunderstood as setbacks.
To have an adequate understanding of who you are, consider all the positive traits that you possess, such as your intelligence, capacity to love, ability to resolve conflicts, initiative, patience, intuition and more. These are all things that have allowed you to recognize yourself as a person who wants to live life to the fullest.
While doing this sounds seemingly simple, it isn’t. This is because we innately outweigh life’s positive aspects with negative ones, and become overly concerned with what is going wrong in our lives instead of what is going right. The first step in becoming more grateful is making a list of all of the positive personal traits, people and resources in your life. The next step is to thoroughly understand these blessings and the ways that they benefit you. This is gratitude. Without a full appreciation of these things, you’re not allowing yourself to be genuinely thankful for what you have, and remain stuck in the mindset that you are incapable of changing your circumstances.
That list, no matter how big or small, is a gift that you have been given, and is the foundation for you to build off of in becoming the person you ultimately wish to be. These traits work in your favor and should be acknowledged, because the truth is, you are lucky to have them. We are all blessed with our own strengths, and apply them in different ways. Allow yourself to alter your perception, and instead of complaining about what you lack, exert energy in improving that area of your life and learn along the way.
When we are fully appreciative of life, there is no room for complaints. Life’s struggles are inevitable, but we fortunately possess our own inherent strengths to manage these struggles and turn them into opportunities to improve our lives. With the right attitude, we have the ability to embark on new journeys, conquer new territories, successfully confront new challenges and ultimately, achieve our dreams.
