Evolution of the Self

On the paradoxes of personality

The Hidden Role of Flattery and Baby Talk in Romantic Love

It's been said that “the very essence of romance is uncertainty.” Assuming that this curious perspective is on target, what might be some of the most effective ways that lovers reduce their doubts—even though, ironically, such doubts might be intrinsic to their romance? What might help enamored partners assure themselves they were every bit as loved as they were loving? Read More

Like cats?

When I read this article, it reminded me of a discussion of cats, affection and purring. Cats, I read, respond to being petted by the human hand because it replicates from the adult cat's point of view the proportion of the mother cat's tongue being used to groom it as a kitten. The ultimate response is "purring" a kitten's response sound to the mother cat.

Since we induce affection from cats by infantilizing them, it does not surprise me that the same principles would apply to inducing affection from people.

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Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D., who holds doctorates in English and Psychology, is a clinical psychologist and author of Paradoxical Strategies in Psychotherapy.


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